The Art of saying “NO”8/8/8 Lionsgate

It is my first day of not having work for the past 2 years, preparing and getting ready for a brand new Chapter to unfold.  I did a post this morning on my Facebook about the art of saying NO, I have come to realise that when you start the journey of walking in your authentic truth, that is to say owning it, without justification, or the need of approval from others, things become different and things change, human nature right!!

Here is my understanding on a deeper level.   When you start to exercise your assertion, your judgement, the understanding of your capabilities, what you are able to do, what you desire to do, and what you want to do, things become clearer.  If you are sensitive then there may be a tendency to take it personally.

When you start saying NO to what you truly do not want to do, you make room for growth in what you truly want to do.  But here is the thing, one begins to realise that those that may be used to you saying YES regularly naturally start to fall away.

You see many people resist change, whether they agree or not, so when you start the journey of changing and asserting that change, it creates a “ripple” in the dynamics of your relationships, your family life, your work life, your intimate relationships, because all are so used to you saying YES.

So when you start saying NO you may find that people in your life will naturally start to fall away, spiritually, universally, it is the law of things, naturally to remove what, who needs to be removed to make room for your renewed growth and your changing soul.  The automatic response may be to feel a sense of resistance from you and others, trust it though for nothing ever grows by staying in ones comfort zone.

 

In love & light Susan xxx

Susan Lawrence Soul Coaching ©1533719998258

Divine Message 08/08/2018 – An opportunity to Forgive! Lions Gateway 08/08/8

Good Morning, Good Morning, Good Morning,

Happy Wednesday in its unfolding, may it be a beautiful day, lets hope so.

The Lions Gateway, what is that?? you may be asking, it happens on the 8th of August (8th month) and this year is 2018 (whereby the 8 is significant) it is a time whereby there is increased cosmic energy aligned with the physical realm.  Have you noticed it? some who are open to this spiritual concept will be more in tune, and those who are on a different alignment will not notice, everyone reaches their spiritual alignment, if it is their choosing in their own time.

The Lions Gateway is associated with the Heart centre and is an expression to the Divine. Plus there are currently 5 planets in Retrograde which means (going backwards) and this in conjunction with this powerful energy, plus we have recently had a super moon eclipse the energies surrounding the cosmos are quite powerful at present, with lots of ship shaping going on.

So it is no surprise that today’s divine message is indicative of “Forgiveness”  it speaks of an opportunity to forgive, many are of the view that to forgive means that you allow the behaviour off the hook, that you condone the behaviour and actions, a reminder that it isn’t possible for you to be responsible for someone else’s behaviour or actions, you can only ever be responsible for you own.  Forgiving someone is actually about YOU, rather than them.

When you allow yourself to forgive you set your soul free, you remove the angst, the discord the emotional upset, those feelings of hanging on, because you haven’t forgiven, you allow it all a space to be set free.  In doing so, you give your soul a space for new growth, a new lease of life, as you no longer allow the very act/s or behaviours of the hurt you experienced a place and expression in your heart and soul.

Imagine how liberating to your heart and soul that would be!

So today, if you have been hanging on to a transgression, holding on to hurt from pain that you have experienced, view it from a place of What was the lesson? what have I learnt? what opportunities has it given me? where have I grown? and where are there areas that I still need to develop and grow?

When you let go you give your heart and soul a place of love and compassion, you set yourself free, it is about YOU, not “other”.   The only person you hurt by hanging on, is YOU.

So today on this Lions Gateway day, which is powerful in its essence, “let go and forgive”

I SET MYSELF FREE WHEN I FORGIVE!

In love & light, Susan xxx

Susan Lawrence Soul Coaching ©

Living in a world where it is a courageous act to be yourself!

Thinking this morning how shallow and superficial some aspects of this world can be, but in essence it is not the World, it is the acts, values and belief systems that are actually shallow and superficial, in my opinion.

It feels like we are measured in terms of our monetary success, the clothes we wear, the way we look, how much we achieve.  With this mentality constantly being the driving force, it is no wonder there is a perception view and mindset that to view anyone who shares simplistic values and beliefs to be an odd ball.

My thinking is that it is actually the eccentrics, the odd balls, the geeks, the nerds, the different do actually achieve but perhaps in a more subtle quieter way than shouting to the rooftops look at me, look what I have achieved every step of the way.

When you finally get to a place where you can sit comfortably in your soul, sit comfortably with your quirks, with your failings, with your positives and with yourself simply as you are, I feel your soul has gotten to a place of acceptance!

It is when you get to a place of celebrating yourself, without the driving force and need of approval of others, is when you have found a quiet place of yes I have arrived.  I feel that, the beauty about the souls journey, and each will arrive at their own destination, in their own time, in their own unique way, is when you get there, you get there, it does not matter how long it takes, but that you get there.

So today I stand in celebration of being in a place of celebration of being my own SHERO and honouring all what has been achieved in my own quiet way and in my own unique way.  I hope that you see that all what you too have achieved, even in the smallest of baby steps without the extra added aspects of viewing from a perspective of money, materialism, ego or having the need to be perfect.  You simply are a success in your own right, the baby steps accumulate to the greater whole.

Celebrate you as you are, I do and my soul feels a place of inner peace at just that.

In love & light Susan xxx

Susan Lawrence Soul Coaching. ©

 

Divine message 07/08/2018 – Energy, everything is energy.

Good Morning, Good Morning, Good Morning,

Happy Tuesday, may your day be just fabulous where it counts and where it feels awesome.

Today’s divine message is that of “Energy” we are all energy and everything is energy, even money is energy.  Some of us are natural healers and can use our energy in a constructive, loving and compassionate way to heal.  We are energy and that we are all connected in some way or other.

It states that Life can be electrifying because its very essence is energy, even with the Ups and the Downs, the trials, tribulations, joys etc.

Receiving Healing may be a good time right now, such as a Massage, some Reiki, some healing work as you will respond accordingly to such and it can support your body to get in alignment if you have been feeling out of sorts, as such.

Also take note of your own capacity to heal yourself and others, have you noticed? Has anyone ever said to you your hands are really hot, or you have the capacity to make me feel better? on a consistent basis, have a think?

Wishing all a beautifully blessed Tuesday in its unfolding and may it be a day that counts and feels that it has made a difference in some way.

With love & light, Susan xxx

Susan Lawrence Soul Coaching ©

 

Energy photo (credit) Hal Gatewood)

Divine Message 06/08/2018 – Life Purpose.

Good Morning, Good Morning, Good Morning,

Wishing you a fabulous Monday, as it unfolds in the joy of the day, whichever way that may be. I hope that it is a day that feels just right!

Today’s divine insight is “Life Purpose” sometimes we can feel busy wondering what our “Life Purpose” is that we forget to enjoy what actually is unfolding in each moment, with a sense of trust that when we serve others in some way in the name of compassion and service to humanity, that our “Life Purpose” will take care of itself and your purpose will serve you.

Always trust in any given moment that you are where you are meant to be, for the learning, for the lessons, for the joys, the highs and the lows, it’s all in the natural law of things.  Always have an inner sense of knowing what feels right for your soul, that hidden antennae the barometer that isn’t visible but can be felt, trust it “intuition” it is there for a reason and serves a great purpose.

When something feels right, trust it and go with it, when something feels off, trust that too, all will be revealed in its rightful timing.

Have a great Monday, make it count!

In love & light, Susan xx

Susan Lawrence Soul Coaching ©

 

 

 

Divine Message 05/08/2018 – A place of calm, a place to regroup – PEACE

Good Morning, Good Morning, Good Morning,

Happy Sunday, a blessed and beautiful day to you as it unfolds in its joy.

Today’s message speaks of regrouping yourself, grounding yourself in the beautiful element of Water, there is nothing more healing than the sound of water, the feel or water and the sThight of water, it is powerful in its rejuvenating properties, in its healing properties.

If you cannot get near water today, try a visualisation exercise of imagining yourself near your favourite beach, hear the sounds, smell the smell, touch the water, and sit and bask in it, with a Sun or moon that glistens in its wake, hold that vision for some time as you breath in deeply and breathe out deeply, imagine all of your stresses melting away, falling away and no longer attaching themselves to your energy, it is gone.

The greatest Gift is being able to stay calm in among chaos, tension and stress, there is beauty in this, there is grounding in this, and it means that you are in your driving seat.

Have a blissful day visualising, being and knowing that whatever troubles you may be experiencing, they are temporary, for they too change like the seasons.

In love & Light, Susan xxx

 

Susan Lawrence Soul Coaching ©

Ocean picture courtesy of Karl Fredrickson

 

Divine message 4/8/2018 – The Gift of Giving and allowing self to Receive.

Good Morning, Good Morning, Good Morning,

The Sun is gleaming, and oh how beautiful this feels when one is blessed with eyes that have opened to see, the gift of Gratitude, the gift of being thankful to be able to see another day, sadly someone, somewhere has taken their last breath, and a family are now in grief, morbid you may say, but in the scheme of things life is to be lived and experienced, but never taken for granted.

This is why it is so important to grab the joyful moments even if they are temporary, you see the learning is that everything is temporary, it is impossible to believe that everything is forever, for forever does not exist, there is only now.

Today’s message is the Gift of Giving & Receiving, do you allow yourself to receive? when you give, and do you allow yourself to give when you receive regularly?

Balance is key in the scheme of energy, when we allow the flow of give and receive to be in balance then it filters through to other areas of our lives, even in the exchange of Money which is energy, I confess to still be a work in progress in this area, I am learning.

Do you question or feel embarrassed when you receive? do you automatically put up an obstacle by saying “you shouldn’t have”? or do you simply allow yourself to say “Thank you” food for thought.

Imagine all of the times that you gave without expectation of return, that you gave from your heart and soul, that you gave because you were there at that time, and it felt right, consider when you are gifted back, that it is the Universe’s way of rewarding you back for all of the silent things that you do without expectation of return.

Simply say “Thank you”

Wishing you a beautifully blessed day in its unfolding, the Sun shining certainly adds  to one feeling brighter, positive and glad to have been granted another day.

Make it awesome, make it count.

With love, light and blessings,

Susan xx

Susan Lawrence Soul Coaching ©

 

Divine Message 03/08/2018 – Healing Your Inner Child.

Good Morning, Good Morning, Good Morning,

I hope that you have had a good week so far!  Today’s card I feel is an interesting one,  Healing Your Inner Child”  Allow it to be felt, heard, validated and expressed.

How often do you allow your inner child a space to feel all of those things? to even be given a space for a little bit of fun or creativity.  We all know that adulthood is all about responsibility, maturity, being perceived as doing the right thing from the judgement of moral standards, or expectations of what an adult means, but where do you allow your inner child to express itself?

I watched an interesting video yesterday which indicates the very thing that compounds pain in adulthood and that is not healing our inner child if there has been trauma, challenges as a child when growing up, quite often not healing it can ripple and permeate into the very core of trying to become an adult, it has an impact on our relationships, friendships and also in general.

So where do you recognise, any trauma or healing within your inner child that may need attention?

Society I feel doesn’t encourage such reflection, it is usually only addressed in adulthood when an individual gets to a stage of catalyst and being forced into a situation of looking in the mirror that at times it may only then get addressed.

The important aspects of healing our inner child I feel are the following:-

  • Healing earlier childhood trauma, hurt, pain and experiences.
  • Learning to forgive those that have hurt you.
  • Learning to forgive yourself
  • Learning to get to a stage of integrating your inner child into adulthood
  • Allowing the expression of feelings of all that is associated emotionally, spiritually and mentally with your inner child.
  • Allowing for natural expression of your inner child, this can be through fun, creative expression, dance, communication, literature.

You see sometimes we forget to allow our “Inner Child” a place to have a little fun and to play, this is so important, as it gives the little person that is part of your inner you a space to feel honoured.

Have a great Friday, deep stuff, yes it is, but healing is, you don’t get to the root of healing by staying on the surface.

 

In love and beautiful light,

 

Susan Lawrence Soul Coaching ©

2/8/2018 Today’s Divine Message – Let go to prepare for a fresh new beginning!

 

Good Morning, Good Morning, Good Morning, wishing you a wonderful Thursday as the day unfolds.

Today’s Divine message speaks of two aspects, it is Time to go, a chapter in your life has now come to an end, a cycle has been completed.  A reminder that out of every ending a new beginning awaits, sometimes it can feel difficult to see that, as endings are never truly easy, but endings must take place for new cycles to begin.

“See the beauty within each sunset” with a sense of knowing that a brand new Sunrise beckons.

Try not allow fear to take hold in the corners of your mind, whether this be fear of rejection, fear that you are not good enough, fear that the ending that has taken place is a sign that you are not good enough, rather than internalize the ending as something you have done, see it as a cycle, and that the Universe is offering you a chance to “Grow” one simply cannot grow in a comfortable cosy place.

Step into your power and use the process of discernment to strip away anything that pulls or brings you down and focus on the things that uplift and bring you joy.

 

Wishing you a wonderful Thursday as your day unfolds, may it be all that you desire it to be and more.

 

With love

Susan Lawrence Soul Coaching. ©

An Interdependent Relationship is the healthiest way v co-dependency, learning the art of detachment in relationships.

Relationships, the most sought after thing, yet for many, including myself can feel illusive, why is that, well here is my learning, until we get healthy with ourselves and weed out negative behaviour patterns and negative conditioning, we simply cannot be healthy with another, this is not to say for one moment, that one ought to take full responsibility for the demise of a relationship in its totality, but an understanding of how you played a part in that demise and what part you played.

You simply cannot expect to make another accountable if they choose not to be aware, or simply acknowledge in communication with you, their part, or even validate any hurt their actions may have fostered.

You see pain, in particular in relationships, I believe are one of our greatest Teachers, and greatest assets to be able to force us to grow and come out of our conditioned comfort zone.

Many will say how the hell can you give advice on relationships when you are not in one? well here is the thing, if you are a person who does reflect and does look in the mirror you can glean a lot from what hasn’t worked, what things you have done, what things you haven’t done and you can take this lessons forward, there is no greater lesson than that what is deemed as failure both from your own inner critic and from an observational view of the lens.

I have come to learn that the reason why the very thing that you may truly desire from your soul and heart eludes you, is because perhaps you have been eluding yourself? quite often the focus on “other” is a mechanism to deflect you from looking at yourself, it is easy to get into a situation whereby it’s always the other persons fault, but that is just proportioning blame, which serves no purpose, that is just a justification to take no responsibility for being part of that journey.

You see my learning is that when you love deeply there can be acts of imbalance in that you give all of yourself, sometimes at times at the expense of “other” when in actual fact, the gift is to learn interdependence, keep a level of individuality and a level of interdependence in equal measure.  Having been part of unhealthy relationships, I now get to witness so much earlier on, the red flags of where a situation could become co-dependent, that is not love, that is enabling, that is control, and love is not about control.

Love needs to be given a space to be free, to flourish, to grow, to emerge in its floral design, so that both emerge and grow to their highest and greatest potential.  One of the healthiest relationships is where honest, truthful and connected, present communication exists, where there is absolutely no fear or judgement in being able to express your true, honest and authentic self.

The gift of loving unconditionally without expectation is the gift of detachment, for when you get to a place where there is no expectation of an outcome, there is no need, nor desire to “fix” other, but to focus on fixing, YOU, that is the gift of a healthy relationship.

In today’s society there are a great deal of unhealthy relationships, I know this from a wisdom perspective, and knowledge as being part of a group, observation and reading.

Unhealthy relationship patterns can be learnt from an early age, even from the perspective of what appears on the outside, a very healthy relationship to co-dependency and enabling patterns that take place in the home.

When you can get to a place where you can safely allow your souls true authentic self to shine, express itself without fear or judgement, and the same for other, then that right there is a healthy balance.

Love is not control, loves needs space to be able to express its truth, not all flowers and rose tinted glasses all of the time, but the moments of emotions that may not feel very comfortable, when you get to a place where you can connect with someone and you show all facets of your character and personality and there is nothing hidden, and both of you are able to hold each other in those moments by being emotionally present and available, that is a healthy relationship.

If you feel the need to “fix” make excuses, dum down who you are, or suppress your emotions or who you are that is control, that isn’t healthy.  The importance of honest communication is also about allowing yourself to vocalise your feelings without fear this helps the relationship grow because you are showing your vulnerability, and it is only when we truly drop our guard, show our vulnerability that we can truly have an honest loving relationship and remember, just because you behave in a particular way, it does not mean expecting other to be the same, because that right there is one of the situations that will set you up for a fall.  Most of us do have an expectation of how we perceive things should be, but in the love stakes, usually it turns out to be completely different, that is because we had an expectation.

Love is a gift when it is allowed to grow and flow.

In love & light, Susan. xxx

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