I wanted to impart some knowledge from some previous learning in 2017, I found the subject absolutely fascinating, I had set myself an objective to complete this online course by today, I do as a whole give myself goals to complete, it is how I keep myself fresh, updated and new and how I expand my mind.
So here goes, for many of us attraction can feel and be a mind field as a curious Woman who wants to know and understand I embarked on this course today to understand what happens to our brain at the point of attraction, I have always known that is so much more than what we see, what we feel, yes mind, body and spirit is part of the journey and process, but so too are our brains, so I have written a piece imparted from my learning today, if you are anything like me, you will find it fascinating.
So here is some insight into the chemical reactions that are created in our brains at the point of attraction and connection and the chemicals that are released from our body.
The Neuro Chemistry Science of Falling in Love and the effects on the body and the brain.
I am on a mission and drive for new knowledge and new learning to impart today I learnt the following:-
There are 6 stages to falling in Love that happens in the brain when we become attracted to someone and when we fall in love, many may just associate it with a feeling, but it goes so much deeper than this, there are chemical reactions that take place in the brain when an attraction takes place and when sex takes place, today I have become aware of what can keep us attached, it is because of some of these neuro chemical reactions to another that can help us to form attachments and sometimes make it difficult to disengage or detach, I have found it absolutely fascinating to say the least.
Stage 1 – this is called Crush stage, a bit like when we were at school the chemical DOPAMINE is released and this chemical is very similar to those who are addicted to gambling and drug taking.
Stage 2 – the adrenal gland starts to release a chemical reaction, the two chemical reactions are Epinephrine and Norepinephrine this is released through the courting process, also called NOREP and keeps individuals in the obsessive stage.
Stage 3 – This is where things start to decline from the honeymoon phase which usually lasts about 3 – 6 months then chemical reactors start to decline, the limbic reward system will allow us to constantly think about the object of our desire on a regular basis. Very similar to being addicted like we would be if we were using the drug cocaine. Dopamine is constantly released throughout the stages process, we may go through a sense of withdrawal without the other in our lives, especially if there has been a decline, we all have a desire and need for love and the survival and primal instincts will set in, this rush will end in a period of a few months.
Stage 4 – Rose tinted glasses, this is where we may not see the object of our desires, foibles, faults and red flags because the Amygdala will produce and this monitors threats to the connection, it sort of goes to sleep and we start to ask ourselves should I trust this person, have they been truthful, are they being deceitful, we start to question things, whilst at the same time maybe not wishing to see the truth.
Stage 5 – coming together, forming an attachment, is where the chemical Oxytocin is released, this is released at the same time as breastfeeding and the same time as Orgasm, this then means that due to this chemical being released by both at the time of the sexual act there is a deepening of the bond and attachment takes place. It is this chemical that has the capacity to ensure that the connection has the capacity for longevity and building trust, it is the primal chemical in my mind that enables us to become involved with another, so in my mind it is only at this point can a real union take place, it is where both become one in that moment and where both become one on a regular basis. Oxytocin is much more subtle than Dopamine.
Stage 6 – friendship and companionship stage – this is where the ventral palladium releases chemical neuro transmitters which are full in Oxytocin and vasopressin receptor chemicals is released these two chemicals are related to monogamy and attachment and the limbic system also
Remains active in most relationships where there is a deep attachment which also does mean that that rush feeling of early courtship can be present. So you see there is so much more to falling in love than we realized. So much activity takes place in our brain at the time of attraction, it is no wonder that some attachments are hard to shake and hard to detach from, it certainly gives a beautiful insight and perspective into the journey of attraction, it is not just this though. There is so much more.
In love & Light, Susan Lawrence xx
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