Worry is a wasted emotion – today’s message from spirit guides – 14/3/2018

Why worry? where does it get you? What does it change?

Nothing!!

All it does it set your body up for a fight or flight situation, sends hormones into your body which are toxic and creates tension and disease in the body.  Worry is a wasted emotion, worry is often as a result of an imagined scenario, fear based which then sends your thought processes into a spiral of negative thinking.

Worry creates disharmony in the body and creates a hormones to be released which create an imbalance, does this really help, yes some may say, easier said than done.  But on the premise of working with what you physically, emotionally, spiritually have the capacity and power to change, what does worrying do? it creates all sorts of feelings, emotions and discord in the body and mind, not helpful.

The key principle if you feel worried about something, ask yourself does worrying change the outcome of your situation?

Yes worry is a real emotion, it is a real feeling but taking on its own merit it does not truly support you to be able to move forward but creates fear and creates a stumbling block to keeping it moving so that you can then move forward it a more positive manner.

Worrying does not have the power to alter the result nor change the outcome of what is naturally going to be, there are simply some things that we do not have control over, so in truth the only thing to do is trust that any outcome may be beyond our control, the key objective is how we choose to respond once we do know what the outcome is.

Perhaps worrying is a genetic trait, learned behaviour, perhaps family members have been prone to worrying and this too has created a reaction in you, learned behaviour, we do after all inherit some learned behaviours.

The guides are urging you today to recognize that worrying is wasted energy, which you can then free up to be utilized in a more positive manner.

Remembering that if you are dealing with a situation to which you do not know the answer to yet, or you feel it is something out of your control, just flow with it and trust that things will resolve themselves, that everything that you experience is temporary, it does not last, things change, sometimes quickly, sometimes it takes a little longer, but nonetheless, nothing stays the same forever. #

Work with what you have the power to control and let go of the rest.

Now Breathe, in love and beautiful light surrounding you to feel more at ease.

Susan xxxxinstaquote-_temp (13).png

Compassion goes a long way, to others, to self!

Hi there,

My thoughts turn to Compassion today, compassion goes a very long way in a World that can feel unfeeling at times, you just never truly know how much you holding out your hand in compassion will impact another.  For you see many suffer in silence, sometimes the silence is out of not wanting to be a burden to others, not wanting to show vulnerability, not wanting to admit to others that one simply isn’t coping with what one may be going through.  Over the years since I have been on Facebook, since 2009, I have seen only too well the posts that do get a response, and the posts that usually get a response are the negative posts and real life posts, you see human nature can respond to these type of posts, so I wanted to draw reference to the word Compassion today, I have been thinking about it for a couple of days now.

So what is Compassion? what exactly is it, a definition I have pulled up from Wikipedia is this;

Compassion motivates people to go out of their way to help the physical, mental or emotional pains of another and themselves. Compassion is often regarded as having sensitivity, an emotional aspect to suffering, though when based on cerebral notions such as fairness, justice, and interdependence, it may be considered rational in nature and its application understood as an activity also based on sound judgment. There is also an aspect of equal dimension, such that individual’s compassion is often given a property of “depth”, “vigour”, or “passion”. The etymology of “compassion” is Latin, meaning “co-suffering.” Compassion involves “feeling for another” and is a precursor to empathy, the “feeling as another” capacity for better person centred acts of active compassion; in common parlance active compassion is the desire to alleviate another’s suffering.  So here it is in a nutshell.

How much compassion do you display to your friends, family, those in need? is there tolerance for their plight and for their suffering? or do you get fed up if there is repetition of the same story?

Well you see the real essence is that progress and growth in terms of human suffering is I believe at the root of attachment, which in essence is human nature, we all get attached to something, someone and this is the very nature of human nature, can you imagine if we didn’t? how unfeeling would we really be, terribly cold I imagine.  But there is one thing that comes to mind in the theme of human suffering is that suffering is a journey, just as grief, loss and detaching yourself from something, it is a journey, it takes time to untangle, to process, to understand, to digest, to get to a place where all of the varying emotions become bearable and no longer feel overwhelming, so imagine how it feels to go through a process of suffering, whether this be from life’s experiences, personal loss, addictions, trauma, it takes time, the journey to healing does not happen overnight, oh no.

So if you see someone within your peripheral circle who needs some support, reach out your hand in compassion to see if you can offer support, you may not be able to take their pain away, their suffering away, but just reaching out and being there, may mean so much, and it just may make a difference to their lives.  We all need to feel loved, appreciated, cared for and that we matter, even though the real essence is not seeking validation outside of ourselves, or from others, but it does make a difference to our feeling of interdependence to know and to feel that someone does care.

You just never know how much of an impact that may have on another’s emotional, spiritual well-being.

And also remember too, lastly, if compassion does not include yourself, it isn’t compassion. compassion600.jpg

In love & Light, Susan xxx

When you are challenged, instead of “Why me”, why not “Try me”

As am sitting here just doing a few things I drew a card from the Deck by James Van Praagh, Messages From The Guides, Transformation Deck, what came up was “Accept Your Struggles As Lessons”, it got me thinking of the theme when life is challenging you, instead of saying Why me” why not say Try me?

For it is the very theme of our challenges that we are forced out of our comfort zone to grow, can you imagine if this did not happen? we would lead a very staid, consistent and somewhat uneventful life wouldn’t we?

A particular mind-set that may be useful is thinking about our challenges on a spiritual level and that we all have chosen our struggles to help our soul evolve and grow, to force us to grow out of our comfort zones, afford new perspectives, new growth and new found wisdom and knowledge, this keeps things fresh, alive, interesting and varied, at the time of going through struggles it can sometimes be extremely hard to see the wood for the trees, or at least a ray of sunshine among the darkest of clouds, but eventually we do, eventually a change takes place and we can then reflect and look back and truly begin to understand why? or what it was all about, it can take some time though.

It is important to reflect on the meaning behind each struggle for in doing so one can get a glimpse of what the lesson was all about. How you choose to handle each struggle does give you an insight into your coping mechanisms, strategies, mind-set and the experiences that you come away with.  Also from a spiritual perspective your learning you can take with you ready for your next dimension of spirit.   In the event that you have chosen to ignore the message and view it from a negative mind-set then you can bet your bottom dollar that the very same experience will be presented before your soul again, to ensure that the learning that is needed for your souls evolution is learnt, so do tap into your intuitive 6th sensory perception for there will be a great deal of clues there.

A reminder, A No Is Not A Rejection, but simply put, A Cosmic Redirection, and for every lesson there is always a gem and a pearl that can be turned into a blessing.

You are not your circumstances, nor your experiences your wisdom, truth and light are a product of such.

Keep shining, its your birth right.

In love & Light, Susan xxinstaquote-_temp (12).png

 

Like Attracts Like

Hi, I asked for a card today to send out Universally and the card that came up is Like Attracts Like, interesting concept, some may think what does that mean, well in essence we get what we focus on, so if we focus on fear, anger, hate, love, disappointment, joy, negativity then we will get those things, this deck by James Van Praagh, Messages From The Guides, Transformation Deck I felt drawn too for spiritual work of sharing positive empowering messages.

In essence this card speaks of the following key points objectively:-

  • What you focus on give your energy too this is what will manifest
  • You are the creator of your own life
  • A deflection away from compassion and truth via distractions from day to day life
  • What you desire you must create
  • Not giving into fear and anxiety
  • Making a conscious effort to turn your fear based thoughts to that of compassion, forgiveness and understanding, mercy, tolerance and service.
  • Know one is exempt from this universal law
  •  Turn negative energy, thoughts and actions into a positive

This takes awareness and conscious thought and action, it does not happen overnight and one has to re-train their mind.  I also asked for another card from another deck I have and this one is from the Universe Has Your Back deck by Gabrielle Bernstein and ironically the card drawn fits in perfectly with the other, so today’s message and positive focus is watch your thoughts and your actions, if you are fear based then this is what you will create, let go, let love, compassion and understanding be your inner guide.  It does not mean you condone what does not feel right it just means that you channel your thoughts and responses around it.

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Reviewing a box of dark chocolates!

Today I wanted to share a concept of dark chocolates, I remember many years ago seeing this meme. FB_IMG_1519284648761

It took me some years later to understand the importance of its meaning.  “Heartbreak”, now we all know, in fact I do not imagine for one moment that anyone does not know what that feels like, it is one of human nature experiences that are always an aspect of life through the passage of time.

My perception of it is that the dark chocolates are the very things that need to be addressed in a relationship that is not healthy, may be toxic, may be imbalanced, may be where there are aspects that are being shown as a means for soul development and a journey to growth, one thing I have come to realize is that our deepest, darkest, shadow experiences, the most harrowing of experiences are where our soul grows the most, we are forced to as in the very deepest aspect where we are forced out of our comfort zone we are afforded the gift of light after our dark chocolates experience.

One of the most painful aspects of this dark chocolates experiences are the feelings of loss, not dissimilar to the feeling of “grief”, grief can sometimes plummet you down the rabbit hole, sometimes it can take you to a very dark and overcast place as it introduces you to the very core aspects of our subconscious self that may need to be healed, especially if there has been trauma that has been experienced before, whether this is from an early experience, childhood or other.

You see our triggers do in fact have something to teach us, as we journey through the very differing range of emotions that we can experience through loss, heartache, whether it be through death, or a severing of a relationship we become faced with aspects of ourselves that may feel rather uncomfortable, this is not a one rule for all, it is a rule for some, some are able to just dust themselves down and appear not to be as affected.  However, a point to note in my opinion from experience is that when we soldier on and do not give our souls a space of acknowledging, processing, validating an experience, there can be a situation much later in life where it can smack us in the face.  The Universe does that you see.

Having this dark chocolates experience can feel rather uncomfortable, disconcerting, unfamiliar, scary, leave you with a sense of not feeling in control as you journey through the experience of coming to terms with what has been handed to you.  I liken this to experiences that you may not have been expecting or may not have seen, a traumatic event that has jolted your soul awake, jolted it, shook it to the very core and rippled the whole of the foundations of what you thought were.

One of the things that is very common is to go through several stages of emotions in the early stages of trauma and shock. these are:-

  • Shock
  • Disbelief
  • Highly emotional
  • Rationalization of ones emotions and feelings
  • Denial
  • Anger
  • Making excuses for the experience
  • Trying to downplay the experience
  • Acceptance
  • Victim mentality
  • Survival mentality
  • Relieving the experience in your mind

The range of emotions that you may experience due to your situation or circumstance will assist you in journeying through a variation of these emotions and you may bounce around different ones at any different times, the last stage is anger and then you find a place of acceptance.

Heartbreak and is one of the most painful things, there is even heartbreak in the loss experience, it is not unknown for couples whom have been together for long periods of time to lose their other partner to find themselves in a situation where they have not long followed.  It is extremely important not to rush the healing process of heartbreak and loss, it is a very unique grief journey that is unique to each and every individual.

It is important to take one day at a time as you allow yourself to heal and get to a place where finally you get to a place of acceptance, listen to your soul, your mind and spirit and you will know when you have taken the lesson and be able to turn it into a blessing.  For everything that we do experience in the theme of dark chocolates gives us an opportunity for growth, even if you do wear the experiences of that experience for many years to come.

Be kind to yourself, be kind to your heart and soul as you heal.

With love & light, Susan xx

Susan Lawrence Soul Coaching

Is your Jar Half Full or Half Empty!

Revisiting an earlier theme of the jar, where one puts into it all of the positive blessings one has received throughout the year, it was so uplifting to go through it at the end of the year on NYE, write down all of the positive things, the accomplishments, the gifts received, it really helps put a perspective on viewing ones jar half full rather than half empty.

Humaness at least that is what I call it, is the capacity to ebb and flow like the waning moon in ones thoughts, feelings and emotions, sometimes we can feel a little bogged down, well at least I know I can get moments of feeling a little so so, ones vibration feels a little low, sometimes for reasons we know, sometimes inexplicable, anyone that states they are positive and grinning 24/7 and 365 days of the year, in my personal opinion is a little rather “unrealistic” shall we say, we do have to address the moments of both feeling uplifted, bright, perky, happy, buoyant against the feelings of feeling a little sad, low and lacking in energy.  This is where strategies to uplift come into it, strategies to uplift, like my earlier post of looking for the sun amongst the clouds.

You will be surprised just how much your soul feels great at the end of the year going through your jar to discover that you actually achieved so much more in one year than you had anticipated, you had been acknowledged more than you realised, you had been loved more than you realised, human nature is often to focus on the negative, we have been conditioned in matters of cynicism and20180209_170558 subliminal negative messages, so it is all to easy to tap into what is not working, rather than what IS.

So I thought I would share your Half Full Jar, you can label it whatever you like, call it what you like, put in it whatever you like, just as long as at the end of the year you have something to look back and view it with a smile on your face and saying to yourself, that year was a good year after all 🙂 remember we have to create our own Sunshine, it is our responsibility, know one else’s, only we are responsible for how we feel, what we do and how we choose to respond.

In love & Light

Susan Lawrence Soul Coaching xxx