Time is a Healer! The Gift of Time

Every day is unique in its unfolding.
They say that time is a healer, you cannot place time on any healing that needs to take place, for it is like layers of an onion, each layer that sheds gives rise to an emergence of another layer to be healed.
The severity of the trauma or the experience will always be a unique one to each individual, I do admire those that appear to have the ability to dust themselves off, like flour on their clothes, dust, dust, then its gone, but is it really though? hmmmm I do wonder, for humans have the capacity to compartmentalize their stored experiences of hurt and pain in a tight lidded box, to be open again at ones choosing and peril, or when they are triggered and they have no choice but to look the hurt in the eye and say yes, I am ready now to deal with it. aaron-burden-622662-unsplash.jpg
In this though this only prolongs the healing that needs to take place, compounds it, one thing that we can do in this beautiful unfolding of “Life” is enjoy each day, live it, experience it, whilst we still give ourselves permission to be in this timeframe of NOW!!
Time is a healer, it isn’t finite, we cannot say I will feel better today, tomorrow, next week, next month or next year, it truly is a unique thing, the capacity to be able to still function though whilst one gives themselves time to heal what their soul as asking to be healed is the capacity to enjoy each day in its unfolding, to find the joy in each day.
I know from experience that behind every smile there are an ocean of tears, indeed though, this does not mean for one moment that there isn’t the capacity to laugh, giggle even though somehow, somewhere you may be hurting inside, for the gift of time, wisdom and experience is the blessings of being able to function and still get on and move away for just a moment from the pain.
Not forgetting though for those that struggle, sometimes the struggle is just too real, sometimes the transformation from pain to joy seems just a little to long a way for them, never judge, for how can we, when we are not walking a mile in their shoes, we may be able to understand the pain, but everyone will have their own unique strategies, coping mechanisms and ways of dealing with it, there is no right or wrong.
Remembering that as John Holt says, Time Is The Master!!
Remembering that Tears are the Liquid Emotions That The Heart Cannot Express!!
No judgement please for Time is a healer in all things.
With Light and Love, Susan xxxxx

The Circle Of Life!

Today I had a moment to reflect and feel amazed at having 3 Adult children, I feel amazed at how quickly time flies, how it goes and the memories all role into a ball ready for moments to be recalled.

I remember each of their Births like yesterday, the feelings, the joy, the sad reflective moments, the pure joy at holding my little bundle in my arms, and how proud I feel as I stand back and think, I am so very proud of you all.

The circle of life is always present and evident in every day life, in the Seasons, the Weather, things are born and things die, life can be like this with cycles and seasons too, so too can our own journey, in the cycles and situations that we experience, and it is okay, because what I have learnt over the years is this, nothing stays the same forever, everything is temporary for the period of time it needs to be that way, until the change and evolution of growth through a situation, event or circumstance.  Sometimes we place pressure on ourselves, with that inner dialogue that takes place, I should be this, I should be that by now, but everything has its time, everything has its place, and everything has its season.

For the real tragedy of life is not death, but what we allow to die inside of us while we live.

The true testimony is Rising from life’s tragedies and still standing when you feel like you have nothing left, when you are going through it, it doesn’t feel like you can see a light at the end of the tunnel, but later on, upon reflection you can feel immensely proud of yourself for discovering you had so much inner strength to get through.

Find the joy in between life’s challenges to find a balance and you can’t go wrong.

With love & light, Susan xxx

Today’s Universe Has Your Back Message 09/04/2018

Good Evening,

How has your day been today, I awoke today feeling uber sensitive, perhaps it is because I am fending off a heavy cold and have been feeling a little bit out of sorts, desperately trying to continue doing what needs to be done, ever get those moments where you just feel yucky?

Sensitive, insecurities popping up to feel heard, concerns, worries, yes I have those human thoughts too.

Today’s card has me in mind of Carl Jung’s Shadow Self and his work, I do find his work interesting and quite fascinating, its depth, its terminology and its meaning, I relate the term Shadow Self here

Shadow: Hidden or unconscious aspects of oneself which the ego has either repressed or never recognized.  I do think that in order to do any type of healing work it is essential to touch base with core aspects of our shadow self, this is not always an easy thing to do, as sometimes going back to some earlier experiences can reinforce the trauma experienced, but I do believe that in order to heal one must allow oneself to feel with guidance.

Today’s card relates to two polar opposites darkness and light, it is ironic as I am so aware of these feelings within myself today and have allowed myself to feel what I am feeling with an understanding that whatever it is that my subconscious self is trying to reveal to me, it will do so in its rightful timing.

So today I ask you what are you aware of within yourself that is rippling from your subconscious?

Today’s message is this, what is it you fear? what is it that I fear? what is feared? and how can it be transmuted through the energy of love, well I did take myself out of my comfort zone today, doing so is always a positive thing as it means one is challenging oneself, so if you do identify with something that is making you feel a little bit wobbly and you identify it as “Fear” challenge it, face it and then allow it to flow and move through you.  You got this, quite often what we fear is imagined anyway and blown up in our minds and the actual thought of it is far worse.

I am not going to say stay positive, because I do feel that is a clique, you cannot tell someone to stay positive when they are having thoughts and feelings, but you can support them to identify with what they are feeling, process it, acknowledge it, validate it and then work with a choice on how to move past it, that right there is the gift.

Stay true to your feeling self, knowing that you have the power within you to make a choice whether you allow something to define you or not.

In love & Light Susan xx

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Today’s Universe Has Your Back Message – 04/04/2018

It’s been a couple of days since posting, coming down feeling crappy with a heavy cold, batteries need recharging, sometimes it is so needed, sometimes we do need to listen to the inner call of our body, soul and our mind, oh yes, one must.

I do hope that you have all had a great Easter filled with family love, joy, peace, rest and a sense of inner reflection and calm.

Today’s guidance is “My Faith Has The Power To Turn Trauma Into Healing,  Conflict Into Growth, and Fear Into Love” oh my, I can so relate to this one today, I truly can.  Ever get those moments where you feel conflicted from past trauma, or one feels triggered? or one feels a ripple of a memory, you see deep seated soul scars are like that, deep, profound, always there, never really going anywhere, but reminding you sometimes of their presence, and you know what its okay, it really is.

So today remind yourself that if you have experienced trauma that your faith, whatever you believe, you have the power to turn your trauma into healing yourself firstly, then you can transfer this into helping others, how magnificently powerful is that?

You can equally turn your conflict into growth and stepping stones to pave the way to a brighter, stronger and confident you, knowing that you have RISEN, like a Phoenix from her/his ashes and turned your fear into LOVE, go on, you so know that you can, you just got to truly believe in yourself, despite your doubts, fears, insecurities and your past experiences for they have afforded your growth in your current now and can pave the way to new skills, new awareness for a brighter and better future, with a new sense of eyes being opened in a different way.

With love & beautiful light Susan xxx20180404_230202 (2).jpg

Today’s Universe Has Your Back Message – 30/3/2018 –

Happy Easter Weekend All,

May it be filled with Love, Joy, Peace and Blessings.

In the usual manner I drew a card for today and the card that came up was as follows:-

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The message is this that any form of Attack, Pain, Fear Judgement are separations from “Self” and these are merely signals and signs that require healing.

Ask yourself where are you holding on to Fear, Pain, Judgement, where are you attacking others? or even yourself?

We all know that inner critic voice that can sometimes give us a hard time if we let it too.  Where are you showing up with these emotions, remembering too that none of them are bad, they just are, but the truth is what you choose to do with these emotions and how you allow them to manifest.

Where do you need to be kinder to yourself? where do you need to be kinder to others? What is it that you need to let go of.  Coincidentally it is a Full Moon tomorrow, Saturday 31st March 2018 and this is a Blue Moon Rising plus a big solar shift which is actually creating a great deal of tension within everyone’s psyche’s, so hang on in there and I am positive that soon there is going to be a shift, plus we are coming out of a Mercury Retrograde at the end of this month, in the meantime, hang onto your hats for a little longer.

Have a great Easter weekend for those who celebrate, walk from a place of Love and if you aren’t feeling quite so, perhaps a little bit of inner reflection may be a good thing.

With love & light Susan xxx

Today’s Universe has your back message 19/3/2018

Good Morning all,

I requested a card this morning and the card that came up was the one shown below, you see when you allow yourself to open up your heart chakra and open your heart to give and receive love in the various forms it can happen you open yourself up to warmer connections.

It is easy to feel jaded from love’s life experiences but if you can keep holding on to the fact that YOU yourself are love and that the very essence of love is you first and foremost loving yourself enough to let go of anything that may be jading your experiences with others, there is no doubt that hurt and pain in relation to your personal experiences exist, feelings of hurt, feeling let down when things go wrong, but if you can come from a place of reminding yourself that we are all doing the best that we can, in what can feel a challenging world, also remembering that everyone expresses their emotions differently.

If you can ground yourself in the power and knowledge that the biggest emotional power and force there is, is LOVE, and that when you give yourself the power to lean towards this power of Love you are lead to a warmer brighter future.  This starts with acceptance of what you do not have the power to change, what you do have the power to change, and to realize that you do have a choice how to respond.  Just because something may not have worked out, does not make it bad, what makes it a challenge is the approach that may have taken place and how this manifested, even in that situation, scenario, both parties have a responsibility to respond in a way that they choose.

So today’s message is even when life may have given you a challenge in relation to some real emotional hurts and deep stuff, still allow yourself to believe in the power of love, lean towards this energy, and then you will be led, for it is far easier to generate energy towards this emotion and feeling rather than the lower vibration of hate.

Wishing all a beautifully blessed and positive Monday and week ahead.

In love & light, Susan xxx20180319_072237.jpg

Compassion goes a long way, to others, to self!

Hi there,

My thoughts turn to Compassion today, compassion goes a very long way in a World that can feel unfeeling at times, you just never truly know how much you holding out your hand in compassion will impact another.  For you see many suffer in silence, sometimes the silence is out of not wanting to be a burden to others, not wanting to show vulnerability, not wanting to admit to others that one simply isn’t coping with what one may be going through.  Over the years since I have been on Facebook, since 2009, I have seen only too well the posts that do get a response, and the posts that usually get a response are the negative posts and real life posts, you see human nature can respond to these type of posts, so I wanted to draw reference to the word Compassion today, I have been thinking about it for a couple of days now.

So what is Compassion? what exactly is it, a definition I have pulled up from Wikipedia is this;

Compassion motivates people to go out of their way to help the physical, mental or emotional pains of another and themselves. Compassion is often regarded as having sensitivity, an emotional aspect to suffering, though when based on cerebral notions such as fairness, justice, and interdependence, it may be considered rational in nature and its application understood as an activity also based on sound judgment. There is also an aspect of equal dimension, such that individual’s compassion is often given a property of “depth”, “vigour”, or “passion”. The etymology of “compassion” is Latin, meaning “co-suffering.” Compassion involves “feeling for another” and is a precursor to empathy, the “feeling as another” capacity for better person centred acts of active compassion; in common parlance active compassion is the desire to alleviate another’s suffering.  So here it is in a nutshell.

How much compassion do you display to your friends, family, those in need? is there tolerance for their plight and for their suffering? or do you get fed up if there is repetition of the same story?

Well you see the real essence is that progress and growth in terms of human suffering is I believe at the root of attachment, which in essence is human nature, we all get attached to something, someone and this is the very nature of human nature, can you imagine if we didn’t? how unfeeling would we really be, terribly cold I imagine.  But there is one thing that comes to mind in the theme of human suffering is that suffering is a journey, just as grief, loss and detaching yourself from something, it is a journey, it takes time to untangle, to process, to understand, to digest, to get to a place where all of the varying emotions become bearable and no longer feel overwhelming, so imagine how it feels to go through a process of suffering, whether this be from life’s experiences, personal loss, addictions, trauma, it takes time, the journey to healing does not happen overnight, oh no.

So if you see someone within your peripheral circle who needs some support, reach out your hand in compassion to see if you can offer support, you may not be able to take their pain away, their suffering away, but just reaching out and being there, may mean so much, and it just may make a difference to their lives.  We all need to feel loved, appreciated, cared for and that we matter, even though the real essence is not seeking validation outside of ourselves, or from others, but it does make a difference to our feeling of interdependence to know and to feel that someone does care.

You just never know how much of an impact that may have on another’s emotional, spiritual well-being.

And also remember too, lastly, if compassion does not include yourself, it isn’t compassion. compassion600.jpg

In love & Light, Susan xxx

Turning Loss into a learning experience.

As I sat quietly this morning, baking and listening to my usual beautiful Calm Zen Radio, I sat with my deck of cards and asked for today’s guidance.  The card that came up is called “Death Is An Illusion” now for western ways this may sound morbid, touching base with such a subject.  I will always feel that the British western ways of dealing and handling loss, death is to remain in a sense of denial with a stiff upper lip.  But with other cultures they actually embrace death, loss as a passageway.  Someone needs to hear this message today, so I am going to go with its message.

This card talks of death being a physical vessel which exists.  That there is a beginning, middle and an end to every life form, whether this is measured in minutes, days, or decades.  It is the nature of the molecules of this earthly planer to have an end date, this is the natural state, this is something that we all do have a guarantee of, and know of.

The death of the conscious energy (or soul) of the vessel, however is an illusion.  But because it can’t be seen or measured and because there are no instruments to detect it, many humans question the ability of the consciousness to survive the death of the vessel.  Just because the limitations of the brain aren’t able to explain the intricate dance between the physical dimension and the spiritual dimensions does not negate its existence.

Spiritual form uses “Death” as a tool, and it then manifests itself in the emotional expression as grief.  This card has been drawn because there may be a need to let go and have some assistance with feelings of loss.  Everything comes to its natural end.  Humans, Animals die, relationships and careers end, but the courageous, strong and full of wisdom are those that are able to transcend any pain of loss into a positive and draw reference from what once was in that moment of time.  Grief is a very real emotion and needs to be felt, acknowledged, understood and validated for its very presence and essence, I liken it to the journey of at times grief being so desperately painful in that moment of mourning the loss of what once was, what one may have hoped for, for what might have been, for all the hopes, desires, expectations, dreams and emotions to no longer having it in a very real sense.  When we allow ourselves to truly touch base with the emotions of loss, mourning and letting go and then transcending all of those difficult emotions to a positive that is when we have allowed our soul to truly rise in the power of its truth, almost like the process and journey of the Phoenix rising from its ashes, there is so much learning when we allow ourselves to process and flow through the whole experience and come out of the other side. Know one said it is easy, going to be easy, or is easy, it is just a passageway to reach the full potential of the other side, taking the journey, the learning of letting go of any attachments that exist.

Helping others in times of grief is one of the most important lessens that we can give to humanity, there is something really soul deep when we are in pain and still having the capacity to rise up and support others, that is compassion at its highest form, grief is one of the most important events in a persons lifetime that the soul can experience.

You see spirit knows that the bonds of Love never truly die and that the souls who are no longer existing in a physical sense are more alive and with you that you may have thought possible whilst you reside in this dimension of Earth, it is your conscious mind that has the difficulty in accepting this fact.  The “Reunion” with your Spirit family is also an illusion because in truth you have never been separated, no amount of time, place nor distance will ever be able to discount the memories, the love, the joy, the feelings that existed when you were both together on this earth plane, and nothing will ever be able to change that.

Grief is a passageway and a gateway to truly learn the journey and the truth that separation is in the mind, and that in your soul the love still exists and always will.

If at any time your grief feels to much too overwhelming or perhaps it has taken you to a place where you are not able to move forward because you have become stuck in the emotions, feelings, thoughts and memories, do seek some professional counselling to support you to get through this, it is not a weakness but a beautiful strength to seek and ask for help when you soul truly needs it.

Remember you are always loved by who you have lost, or at least in your lifetime you were and that never changes.

In love and beautiful light.  Susan xxxxx

Deck Messages from the guides James Van Praagh.  I happen to think are truly powerful, beautiful and speak an abundance of spiritual truth, words written today are a combination of guidance and my own. 20180310_135728.jpg

 

Release Toxic Relationships – 03/03/2018

Happy Saturday,

Today I write with regards to what would be beneficial for your soul growth, as I sat quietly I asked for a card to be drawn as a message for greater soul growth and the potential to reach soul growth in a positive way.

The card that came up was Release Toxic Relationships, the deck that I use are by James Van Praagh, so I cannot take full ownership but I can relay the message that has come up.

The key indicators of this card are that in order for you soul to thrive, it needs to be in an environment of love and harmony, any type of conflict, imbalance or discordance only creates difficulty for your soul to thrive.  Often times souls who are sensitive, HSP’s (Highly Sensitive Persons) Lightworkers, those with a psychic or spiritual inclination will attract others who may be drawn to their light and can siphon of your energy if you are not careful, leaving you depleted and lacking energy.  On this basis, it is extremely important that you protect your energy and protect yourself.  For those who are natural “helpers” the first inclination will be naturally gravitate to those whom gravitate towards you to help, but in doing so, at times may not be conducive for their soul growth, know when to step back and when to help, at least this is what I have learnt, do place those boundaries, let your intuition guide you as to when to help and when to step back.   Sometimes too a soul may be brought to you too, to establish just how much you may have grown in the art and discernment of saying no and that you have the strength to actually release them for their greater good.

Toxic relationships come in many shapes and many forms, some of the key aspects of wisdom and experience are an understanding of which, learn to discern whom is good for your soul growth and whom isn’t, now this may not happen straight away, it can happen too when there is growth within existing relationships, just like seasons, time and place things have the capacity to naturally fall away organically when growth has taken place and renewal, rebirth needs to take place, it is not wrong, it is not right, it just IS, there need not be bitterness, discord with this process just an inner understanding that a journey has come to its natural end.  As you emerge anew you may need to re-organize, re-structure and shuffle yourself and vice versa as this change takes place.  This card has come up at a time of new seeding which is Spring and also just after the last Full Moon 2 days ago which was in the Astrological sign of Virgo, one of the key attributes of a Full Moon phase is to release what is outworn, what no longer serves your soul growth and RELEASE.

Do not allow your kindness, empathy and compassion to allow others to mistreat you or disrespect your soul growth, remembering too that it is equally important for the other party to be afforded this too so they too can GROW, it is a two way mirror which reflects individually for each who play a part.

When something comes to an end, send it love, give it love, say thank you for the lessons, blessings, the gifts, all of what that journey may have encompassed, and thank you for allowing me the space to grow in that chapter, say to yourself I AM READY, I AM READY, for a new chapter and I feel full of wisdom, love, knowledge from all of the teachings that I have had to let go of before.

Stay blessed, be blessed and always come from a place of LOVE.

Cards by James Van Praagh, written by Susan Lawrence Soul Coaching

In love & Light Susan xxxinstaquote-_temp (11).png

Like Attracts Like

Hi, I asked for a card today to send out Universally and the card that came up is Like Attracts Like, interesting concept, some may think what does that mean, well in essence we get what we focus on, so if we focus on fear, anger, hate, love, disappointment, joy, negativity then we will get those things, this deck by James Van Praagh, Messages From The Guides, Transformation Deck I felt drawn too for spiritual work of sharing positive empowering messages.

In essence this card speaks of the following key points objectively:-

  • What you focus on give your energy too this is what will manifest
  • You are the creator of your own life
  • A deflection away from compassion and truth via distractions from day to day life
  • What you desire you must create
  • Not giving into fear and anxiety
  • Making a conscious effort to turn your fear based thoughts to that of compassion, forgiveness and understanding, mercy, tolerance and service.
  • Know one is exempt from this universal law
  •  Turn negative energy, thoughts and actions into a positive

This takes awareness and conscious thought and action, it does not happen overnight and one has to re-train their mind.  I also asked for another card from another deck I have and this one is from the Universe Has Your Back deck by Gabrielle Bernstein and ironically the card drawn fits in perfectly with the other, so today’s message and positive focus is watch your thoughts and your actions, if you are fear based then this is what you will create, let go, let love, compassion and understanding be your inner guide.  It does not mean you condone what does not feel right it just means that you channel your thoughts and responses around it.

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