The Circle Of Life!

Today I had a moment to reflect and feel amazed at having 3 Adult children, I feel amazed at how quickly time flies, how it goes and the memories all role into a ball ready for moments to be recalled.

I remember each of their Births like yesterday, the feelings, the joy, the sad reflective moments, the pure joy at holding my little bundle in my arms, and how proud I feel as I stand back and think, I am so very proud of you all.

The circle of life is always present and evident in every day life, in the Seasons, the Weather, things are born and things die, life can be like this with cycles and seasons too, so too can our own journey, in the cycles and situations that we experience, and it is okay, because what I have learnt over the years is this, nothing stays the same forever, everything is temporary for the period of time it needs to be that way, until the change and evolution of growth through a situation, event or circumstance.  Sometimes we place pressure on ourselves, with that inner dialogue that takes place, I should be this, I should be that by now, but everything has its time, everything has its place, and everything has its season.

For the real tragedy of life is not death, but what we allow to die inside of us while we live.

The true testimony is Rising from life’s tragedies and still standing when you feel like you have nothing left, when you are going through it, it doesn’t feel like you can see a light at the end of the tunnel, but later on, upon reflection you can feel immensely proud of yourself for discovering you had so much inner strength to get through.

Find the joy in between life’s challenges to find a balance and you can’t go wrong.

With love & light, Susan xxx

The 8th & 12th Astrological House – Your Shadow Self, Karma, Your secret doorway to your subconscious soul.

Today my mind feels deeper than usual if that is at all possible.  For sometime, a long time now I have held a belief that the 8th and 12th Astrological House in Astrology holds a great deal of information pertaining to our subconscious soul.

These two houses are where we store a great deal of secrets, a great deal of shadow stuff that we may not always desire to confront.

The 8th House in Astrology specifically relates to the astrological sign of Scorpio which relates to the cycle of Birth and Death and Sex, you can bet that if you do have planets in your 8th House then you will have lived a life of loss in differing forms, whether this is a physical loss, spiritual loss or emotional loss, there most definitely will be a depth to you, that some may not understand.  I have this, planets in my 8th astrological house and my 12th house and it just means that I tend to be very deep and some will even say complex, that I can live with and accept.

The 8th House is where you will go through a series of new beginnings and endings, some you will welcome, some you won’t. some you will find more manageable, some will feel more poignant and some will be felt deeply.

The 12th House is the house of mysteries, the house of “Secrets”, Have you had your Astrological chart done? do you know where your placings are for the 8th and 12th house, I will give you a breakdown now of the Houses and what they mean, I do feel that there is a direct correlation and link with Astrology, Tarot and Numerology and all are interlinked in some way.

The Houses: –

1st House – “The Self” – Beginnings, related to Aries

2nd House – Material and physical environment, income, related to Taurus

3rd House – Communication, siblings, nearby travel, related to Gemini

4th House – Foundation, basic security, imagine Maslow’s Hierarchy of Need, related to Cancer, “Mother”

5th House – the house of “Self Expression”, fun, play, related to Leo

6th House – Health, service to others, related to Virgo

7th House – The house of Relationships, partnerships, marriage, related to Libra

8th House – Birth, Death, Sex, Transformation, mysteries, other people’s property, inheritance, related to Scorpio

9th House – The higher mind, Expansion, International and long distance travel, related to Sagittarius

10th House – Government, Structures, Corporations, Father, related to Capricorn.

11th House – Teams, Friendships, Groups, Society, Networking, related to Aquarius.

12th House – Endings, Afterlife, Old Age, Hospitals, related to Pisces.

So if you haven’t had your Astrological Chart done before and you feel a desire to understand yourself more to gain insight into the inner workings of you, let me know and I will be happy to help.

Have a blessed day, the way to understanding others is to understand yourself.

A reminder that your soul made a choice to incarnate with all what you have chosen as your souls pathway to learn and grow. 20180407_085001.png

In love & Light, Susan xx

 

 

Turning Loss into a learning experience.

As I sat quietly this morning, baking and listening to my usual beautiful Calm Zen Radio, I sat with my deck of cards and asked for today’s guidance.  The card that came up is called “Death Is An Illusion” now for western ways this may sound morbid, touching base with such a subject.  I will always feel that the British western ways of dealing and handling loss, death is to remain in a sense of denial with a stiff upper lip.  But with other cultures they actually embrace death, loss as a passageway.  Someone needs to hear this message today, so I am going to go with its message.

This card talks of death being a physical vessel which exists.  That there is a beginning, middle and an end to every life form, whether this is measured in minutes, days, or decades.  It is the nature of the molecules of this earthly planer to have an end date, this is the natural state, this is something that we all do have a guarantee of, and know of.

The death of the conscious energy (or soul) of the vessel, however is an illusion.  But because it can’t be seen or measured and because there are no instruments to detect it, many humans question the ability of the consciousness to survive the death of the vessel.  Just because the limitations of the brain aren’t able to explain the intricate dance between the physical dimension and the spiritual dimensions does not negate its existence.

Spiritual form uses “Death” as a tool, and it then manifests itself in the emotional expression as grief.  This card has been drawn because there may be a need to let go and have some assistance with feelings of loss.  Everything comes to its natural end.  Humans, Animals die, relationships and careers end, but the courageous, strong and full of wisdom are those that are able to transcend any pain of loss into a positive and draw reference from what once was in that moment of time.  Grief is a very real emotion and needs to be felt, acknowledged, understood and validated for its very presence and essence, I liken it to the journey of at times grief being so desperately painful in that moment of mourning the loss of what once was, what one may have hoped for, for what might have been, for all the hopes, desires, expectations, dreams and emotions to no longer having it in a very real sense.  When we allow ourselves to truly touch base with the emotions of loss, mourning and letting go and then transcending all of those difficult emotions to a positive that is when we have allowed our soul to truly rise in the power of its truth, almost like the process and journey of the Phoenix rising from its ashes, there is so much learning when we allow ourselves to process and flow through the whole experience and come out of the other side. Know one said it is easy, going to be easy, or is easy, it is just a passageway to reach the full potential of the other side, taking the journey, the learning of letting go of any attachments that exist.

Helping others in times of grief is one of the most important lessens that we can give to humanity, there is something really soul deep when we are in pain and still having the capacity to rise up and support others, that is compassion at its highest form, grief is one of the most important events in a persons lifetime that the soul can experience.

You see spirit knows that the bonds of Love never truly die and that the souls who are no longer existing in a physical sense are more alive and with you that you may have thought possible whilst you reside in this dimension of Earth, it is your conscious mind that has the difficulty in accepting this fact.  The “Reunion” with your Spirit family is also an illusion because in truth you have never been separated, no amount of time, place nor distance will ever be able to discount the memories, the love, the joy, the feelings that existed when you were both together on this earth plane, and nothing will ever be able to change that.

Grief is a passageway and a gateway to truly learn the journey and the truth that separation is in the mind, and that in your soul the love still exists and always will.

If at any time your grief feels to much too overwhelming or perhaps it has taken you to a place where you are not able to move forward because you have become stuck in the emotions, feelings, thoughts and memories, do seek some professional counselling to support you to get through this, it is not a weakness but a beautiful strength to seek and ask for help when you soul truly needs it.

Remember you are always loved by who you have lost, or at least in your lifetime you were and that never changes.

In love and beautiful light.  Susan xxxxx

Deck Messages from the guides James Van Praagh.  I happen to think are truly powerful, beautiful and speak an abundance of spiritual truth, words written today are a combination of guidance and my own. 20180310_135728.jpg

 

Release Toxic Relationships – 03/03/2018

Happy Saturday,

Today I write with regards to what would be beneficial for your soul growth, as I sat quietly I asked for a card to be drawn as a message for greater soul growth and the potential to reach soul growth in a positive way.

The card that came up was Release Toxic Relationships, the deck that I use are by James Van Praagh, so I cannot take full ownership but I can relay the message that has come up.

The key indicators of this card are that in order for you soul to thrive, it needs to be in an environment of love and harmony, any type of conflict, imbalance or discordance only creates difficulty for your soul to thrive.  Often times souls who are sensitive, HSP’s (Highly Sensitive Persons) Lightworkers, those with a psychic or spiritual inclination will attract others who may be drawn to their light and can siphon of your energy if you are not careful, leaving you depleted and lacking energy.  On this basis, it is extremely important that you protect your energy and protect yourself.  For those who are natural “helpers” the first inclination will be naturally gravitate to those whom gravitate towards you to help, but in doing so, at times may not be conducive for their soul growth, know when to step back and when to help, at least this is what I have learnt, do place those boundaries, let your intuition guide you as to when to help and when to step back.   Sometimes too a soul may be brought to you too, to establish just how much you may have grown in the art and discernment of saying no and that you have the strength to actually release them for their greater good.

Toxic relationships come in many shapes and many forms, some of the key aspects of wisdom and experience are an understanding of which, learn to discern whom is good for your soul growth and whom isn’t, now this may not happen straight away, it can happen too when there is growth within existing relationships, just like seasons, time and place things have the capacity to naturally fall away organically when growth has taken place and renewal, rebirth needs to take place, it is not wrong, it is not right, it just IS, there need not be bitterness, discord with this process just an inner understanding that a journey has come to its natural end.  As you emerge anew you may need to re-organize, re-structure and shuffle yourself and vice versa as this change takes place.  This card has come up at a time of new seeding which is Spring and also just after the last Full Moon 2 days ago which was in the Astrological sign of Virgo, one of the key attributes of a Full Moon phase is to release what is outworn, what no longer serves your soul growth and RELEASE.

Do not allow your kindness, empathy and compassion to allow others to mistreat you or disrespect your soul growth, remembering too that it is equally important for the other party to be afforded this too so they too can GROW, it is a two way mirror which reflects individually for each who play a part.

When something comes to an end, send it love, give it love, say thank you for the lessons, blessings, the gifts, all of what that journey may have encompassed, and thank you for allowing me the space to grow in that chapter, say to yourself I AM READY, I AM READY, for a new chapter and I feel full of wisdom, love, knowledge from all of the teachings that I have had to let go of before.

Stay blessed, be blessed and always come from a place of LOVE.

Cards by James Van Praagh, written by Susan Lawrence Soul Coaching

In love & Light Susan xxxinstaquote-_temp (11).png

Reviewing a box of dark chocolates!

Today I wanted to share a concept of dark chocolates, I remember many years ago seeing this meme. FB_IMG_1519284648761

It took me some years later to understand the importance of its meaning.  “Heartbreak”, now we all know, in fact I do not imagine for one moment that anyone does not know what that feels like, it is one of human nature experiences that are always an aspect of life through the passage of time.

My perception of it is that the dark chocolates are the very things that need to be addressed in a relationship that is not healthy, may be toxic, may be imbalanced, may be where there are aspects that are being shown as a means for soul development and a journey to growth, one thing I have come to realize is that our deepest, darkest, shadow experiences, the most harrowing of experiences are where our soul grows the most, we are forced to as in the very deepest aspect where we are forced out of our comfort zone we are afforded the gift of light after our dark chocolates experience.

One of the most painful aspects of this dark chocolates experiences are the feelings of loss, not dissimilar to the feeling of “grief”, grief can sometimes plummet you down the rabbit hole, sometimes it can take you to a very dark and overcast place as it introduces you to the very core aspects of our subconscious self that may need to be healed, especially if there has been trauma that has been experienced before, whether this is from an early experience, childhood or other.

You see our triggers do in fact have something to teach us, as we journey through the very differing range of emotions that we can experience through loss, heartache, whether it be through death, or a severing of a relationship we become faced with aspects of ourselves that may feel rather uncomfortable, this is not a one rule for all, it is a rule for some, some are able to just dust themselves down and appear not to be as affected.  However, a point to note in my opinion from experience is that when we soldier on and do not give our souls a space of acknowledging, processing, validating an experience, there can be a situation much later in life where it can smack us in the face.  The Universe does that you see.

Having this dark chocolates experience can feel rather uncomfortable, disconcerting, unfamiliar, scary, leave you with a sense of not feeling in control as you journey through the experience of coming to terms with what has been handed to you.  I liken this to experiences that you may not have been expecting or may not have seen, a traumatic event that has jolted your soul awake, jolted it, shook it to the very core and rippled the whole of the foundations of what you thought were.

One of the things that is very common is to go through several stages of emotions in the early stages of trauma and shock. these are:-

  • Shock
  • Disbelief
  • Highly emotional
  • Rationalization of ones emotions and feelings
  • Denial
  • Anger
  • Making excuses for the experience
  • Trying to downplay the experience
  • Acceptance
  • Victim mentality
  • Survival mentality
  • Relieving the experience in your mind

The range of emotions that you may experience due to your situation or circumstance will assist you in journeying through a variation of these emotions and you may bounce around different ones at any different times, the last stage is anger and then you find a place of acceptance.

Heartbreak and is one of the most painful things, there is even heartbreak in the loss experience, it is not unknown for couples whom have been together for long periods of time to lose their other partner to find themselves in a situation where they have not long followed.  It is extremely important not to rush the healing process of heartbreak and loss, it is a very unique grief journey that is unique to each and every individual.

It is important to take one day at a time as you allow yourself to heal and get to a place where finally you get to a place of acceptance, listen to your soul, your mind and spirit and you will know when you have taken the lesson and be able to turn it into a blessing.  For everything that we do experience in the theme of dark chocolates gives us an opportunity for growth, even if you do wear the experiences of that experience for many years to come.

Be kind to yourself, be kind to your heart and soul as you heal.

With love & light, Susan xx

Susan Lawrence Soul Coaching

Cutting Chords

CUTTING CHORDS

A SENSE OF CLOSURE

Sometimes the emotions we are feeling belong to the person we are in connection with and an energetic chord must be severed.

In every relationship people are constantly exchanging energy that can become a chord connecting two people.  This energetic chord forms just below the breastbone and can remain long after a relationship has ended.

This unbroken chord may leave an open channel between you and another person, through which emotions and energy can continue to flow.  If you are unaware that the chord exists, it is easy to feel another person’s emotions and mistakenly think that they are yours.  Besides the fact that this can limit the amount of closure you can experience in a relationship, letting this chord remain intact can leave you with a sense of sadness while creating feelings of lethargy as your own energy is sapped from you.  Cutting the chord can help you separate yourself from old baggage, unnecessary attachments, and release you from connections that are no longer serving you.

Finding and cutting unwanted chords is a simple gentle process that is best done alone and when you are relaxed.  It is important that you are strong in your intention to release the chord (that you desire too) between you and someone else.  To begin, breathe deeply and perform a simple centring03f2192a177c55080e8d094ea2698392 meditation.  When you are ready, visualise or sense the chords that are connecting you to other people.  Run your fingers through the chords to separate them until you find the chord that you wish to sever.  There is no need to worry, because the chord you need to sever will feel just right.  When you have found it, determine where the cut should be made and then visualize the chord being cleanly cut.  If you need assistance, Archangel Michael can be called upon to help you with his sword.  Afterwards, if you feel that cutting the chord has left spaces in your energy field, then visualize those spaces being filled with healing sunlight.

There may be times where cutting a chord can help free a relative or loved one to reach new stages of growth.  You are not severing the relationship, but you are severing the chords that are no longer serving you both.  At other times, a chord may simply refuse to be cut because it is still serving a higher purpose.  It is also important to remember that cutting a chord with someone is not a replacement for doing your emotional work with people.  It can, however, be an enactment of that work upon its completion. In any case, cutting a relationship chord should always be viewed as a positive nurturing act.  By cutting the chords that no longer need to be there, you are setting yourself and others free from the ties that bind.

 

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Pupae – Life stages of Transformation

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I have woken today with a sense of surreal, I was in the kitchen after finishing a call with my Son, having a problem with the screen on my mobile which keeps going black, an awareness that its time for yet another change, no problem with that, suddenly music comes on, I could not see where it was coming from, it surprised me for a moment, thinking where the hell is that coming from, I suddenly realized it was a radio station I listen too regularly called Calm Zen Radio, music was floating around the kitchen, so I thought oh, okay then I shall go with this, it sort of set the tone of the morning and felt rather surreal and beautiful, especially because I did not orchestrate its existence into my being, it just happened, then I read something that triggered a memory of what I term Dark Night Of The Soul, what is that some may say?, but if you have experienced it you will know, it is a period in ones lifetime where you are in a very dark place like a severe Depression, nothing pulls you out of it until you are ready and believe me it can be hard on the family when you do go through it, I remember plummeting into this dark space in 2015 after 2 very deep traumatic events that triggered off old wounds, it came as a shock as the world I thought I was in was just an illusion of my mind, it did not exist, it was not what I thought my world was, it was a perception of my then beliefs.  When you come from a harsh place of regular loss, one would imagine for one moment that one would become immune, one never truly does, some losses are so profound, so soul scarring, so soul traumatic that they leave stripes across your soul, (dramatic you might say) but that is how it feels.

But what got me thinking this morning is the pure joy of finally getting to a place where ones sees some sunlight after the beautiful yet dark night of the moon and its shadows, one does not think back in the thick of it that one will get through, or even how one will get through, a period of counselling paid for out of my then benefit as I was not working I made a commitment to my soul to do further healing and further internal work.  You see loss does not have to just be through death, it comes through the loss of something that you held dear and close to your heart and your soul, and then the realization that it was not what you thought it was, against the reality of what it actually reveals itself to be can send a ripple of shock down the very core of your soul, but I tell you this the growth, the growth, oh the growth internally from an inside place is immeasurable.

Eckhart Tolle gives this definition of the Dark Night Of The Soul https://www.eckharttolle.com/newsletter/october-2011 which I feel is particularly apt and informative, sometimes you may be diagnosed with depression but it is actually a collapse of your ego self, a collapse of what you have perceived yourself to be and your world, journeying through it can be painful, scary and extremely frightening, but I tell you, once you get through it you emerge, very slowly and I mean slowly, you then begin to feel like a Pupae, a chrysalis like a Butterfly in a cocoon waiting for its emergence to burst through and eventually flap its beautiful wings, I will say that if ever you find yourself in that dark place, do not imagine for one moment that your soul doesn’t know its way and its truth, and it knows what to do, it does, the Universe also has your back, your spirit guides, your Ancestors too, and you know what your soul will know what to do, TRUST yourself, TRUST the journey and TRUST your process.

In love and beautiful emerging light, Susan xxxxFB_IMG_1517826195607