Time is a Healer! The Gift of Time

Every day is unique in its unfolding.
They say that time is a healer, you cannot place time on any healing that needs to take place, for it is like layers of an onion, each layer that sheds gives rise to an emergence of another layer to be healed.
The severity of the trauma or the experience will always be a unique one to each individual, I do admire those that appear to have the ability to dust themselves off, like flour on their clothes, dust, dust, then its gone, but is it really though? hmmmm I do wonder, for humans have the capacity to compartmentalize their stored experiences of hurt and pain in a tight lidded box, to be open again at ones choosing and peril, or when they are triggered and they have no choice but to look the hurt in the eye and say yes, I am ready now to deal with it. aaron-burden-622662-unsplash.jpg
In this though this only prolongs the healing that needs to take place, compounds it, one thing that we can do in this beautiful unfolding of “Life” is enjoy each day, live it, experience it, whilst we still give ourselves permission to be in this timeframe of NOW!!
Time is a healer, it isn’t finite, we cannot say I will feel better today, tomorrow, next week, next month or next year, it truly is a unique thing, the capacity to be able to still function though whilst one gives themselves time to heal what their soul as asking to be healed is the capacity to enjoy each day in its unfolding, to find the joy in each day.
I know from experience that behind every smile there are an ocean of tears, indeed though, this does not mean for one moment that there isn’t the capacity to laugh, giggle even though somehow, somewhere you may be hurting inside, for the gift of time, wisdom and experience is the blessings of being able to function and still get on and move away for just a moment from the pain.
Not forgetting though for those that struggle, sometimes the struggle is just too real, sometimes the transformation from pain to joy seems just a little to long a way for them, never judge, for how can we, when we are not walking a mile in their shoes, we may be able to understand the pain, but everyone will have their own unique strategies, coping mechanisms and ways of dealing with it, there is no right or wrong.
Remembering that as John Holt says, Time Is The Master!!
Remembering that Tears are the Liquid Emotions That The Heart Cannot Express!!
No judgement please for Time is a healer in all things.
With Light and Love, Susan xxxxx

Numerology Guidance – 26/3/2016 – LOVE the number 6

I am always always looking for new and creative ways to engage you with my blog information, variety I do believe offers a different perspective to be reached, it also adds variety and a different variation of intuitive truth.

So I once again shuffled my Numerology deck and asked for guidance.  The key word that came up was LOVE, now we all aspire and need a bit of that.  It is easy to imagine in today’s society where there is pressure to be coupled up and you are viewed in judgement if you are single, “Why are you single”?  “what is wrong with you? ” so today’s card drawn reflects on some key questions to ask yourself:-

  • Am I truly open to giving and receiving Love?
  • Do I truly believe I am worthy of Love?
  • Do I truly believe that Love exists for me?

This card is asking you to believe that you are worthy, to believe that you deserve Love, you also deserve to give yourself love, I saw a really poignant meme today and it stated this,

“Stop telling people that no one will love them until they love themselves.  Stop planting the idea in people’s brains that they are unworthy of love because of their own struggle” just because you may be struggling, just because you may feel that you are a little broken does not mean for one moment that you are not worthy of love, it is important to remind yourself that you are as worthy as the next person. Aren’t we all a little broken? and that is okay.  The key thing about interacting within a relationship is for both parties to accept each other’s imperfections as part of your human nature and your human experiences, you may have them, yes, but this does not mean that there cannot be change, that there isn’t the capacity to recognise what hasn’t worked in your past, and what may be impacting on your future, one of the key attributes of being open to receiving love is accepting yourself completely as you are, I do believe that there is someone for everyone.

So today’s guidance is asking you to truly get honest with yourself as to your capacity to receive and give love? and to recognise where there may be a blockage.  Oh and by the way the number 6 is ruled by the planet Venus, the planet of Love, so if you do have the number 6 as your energy in your name, or date of birth then you can be sure there will be an undertone of unconditional love and care that you do express, if you desire to know more, feel free to get in touch, details can be found on my website.  20180326_203125.jpg

Let Love Find Its Way to you.

With love & light, Susan xx

 

21/03/2018 – Today Universe has your back message.

Good Morning,

The Sun is shining, the weather is sweet, we wish, its beautiful but cold, anyway enough!! how are you doing this morning? I hope your slumber was restful and has you feeling rejuvenated this morning and ready to go.

In the usual manner I asked the Universe for a card for the start of the day and as I was shuffling out sprung this card “My fearless freedom lights up the world”.

So my take on this is never feel afraid to express your truth, your essence of your soul, its freedom of movement, freedom of will and freedom of choice, many will try to quell your expression, especially if it isn’t in line with their values, this gives a real clue as to the vibration and energy of those around you and whether they are in your present moment conducive for your growth in your period of NOW. Make sense? yes? no? please do comment and feedback.

You see intrinsically we all have our own unique way of expressing and none of it is right or wrong, when it becomes more fractious is when there are expectations from others to express yourself because they are not comfortable with expressing themselves, you are and they feel uncomfortable around you doing so.  Remember our vibe attracts our tribe, so too do our experiences, but also with an understanding that we do outgrow certain individuals, situations, circumstances and one can usually tell when this takes place as there is no longer a feeling of JOY when you are interacting.  If you feel heavy around certain individuals it means that something is amiss with the energy that both of you bring together, remembering too it is a two way street.  Trust your inner guidance to alert you to what truly feels right and use your intuitive aerial to guide you.

Never feel afraid of your fearless freedom to be YOU, after all you just never know whose world you may be lighting up, or even that you may be inspiring someone without even knowing.

Have an awesome Wednesday in its unfolding, we are in the season of Spring, the spring equinox was yesterday and its a always a time for new beginnings.

Be authentically YOU.

In love & beautiful glowing light, Susan xxxx20180321_075637.jpg

Today’s Universe has your back message 19/3/2018

Good Morning all,

I requested a card this morning and the card that came up was the one shown below, you see when you allow yourself to open up your heart chakra and open your heart to give and receive love in the various forms it can happen you open yourself up to warmer connections.

It is easy to feel jaded from love’s life experiences but if you can keep holding on to the fact that YOU yourself are love and that the very essence of love is you first and foremost loving yourself enough to let go of anything that may be jading your experiences with others, there is no doubt that hurt and pain in relation to your personal experiences exist, feelings of hurt, feeling let down when things go wrong, but if you can come from a place of reminding yourself that we are all doing the best that we can, in what can feel a challenging world, also remembering that everyone expresses their emotions differently.

If you can ground yourself in the power and knowledge that the biggest emotional power and force there is, is LOVE, and that when you give yourself the power to lean towards this power of Love you are lead to a warmer brighter future.  This starts with acceptance of what you do not have the power to change, what you do have the power to change, and to realize that you do have a choice how to respond.  Just because something may not have worked out, does not make it bad, what makes it a challenge is the approach that may have taken place and how this manifested, even in that situation, scenario, both parties have a responsibility to respond in a way that they choose.

So today’s message is even when life may have given you a challenge in relation to some real emotional hurts and deep stuff, still allow yourself to believe in the power of love, lean towards this energy, and then you will be led, for it is far easier to generate energy towards this emotion and feeling rather than the lower vibration of hate.

Wishing all a beautifully blessed and positive Monday and week ahead.

In love & light, Susan xxx20180319_072237.jpg

Compassion goes a long way, to others, to self!

Hi there,

My thoughts turn to Compassion today, compassion goes a very long way in a World that can feel unfeeling at times, you just never truly know how much you holding out your hand in compassion will impact another.  For you see many suffer in silence, sometimes the silence is out of not wanting to be a burden to others, not wanting to show vulnerability, not wanting to admit to others that one simply isn’t coping with what one may be going through.  Over the years since I have been on Facebook, since 2009, I have seen only too well the posts that do get a response, and the posts that usually get a response are the negative posts and real life posts, you see human nature can respond to these type of posts, so I wanted to draw reference to the word Compassion today, I have been thinking about it for a couple of days now.

So what is Compassion? what exactly is it, a definition I have pulled up from Wikipedia is this;

Compassion motivates people to go out of their way to help the physical, mental or emotional pains of another and themselves. Compassion is often regarded as having sensitivity, an emotional aspect to suffering, though when based on cerebral notions such as fairness, justice, and interdependence, it may be considered rational in nature and its application understood as an activity also based on sound judgment. There is also an aspect of equal dimension, such that individual’s compassion is often given a property of “depth”, “vigour”, or “passion”. The etymology of “compassion” is Latin, meaning “co-suffering.” Compassion involves “feeling for another” and is a precursor to empathy, the “feeling as another” capacity for better person centred acts of active compassion; in common parlance active compassion is the desire to alleviate another’s suffering.  So here it is in a nutshell.

How much compassion do you display to your friends, family, those in need? is there tolerance for their plight and for their suffering? or do you get fed up if there is repetition of the same story?

Well you see the real essence is that progress and growth in terms of human suffering is I believe at the root of attachment, which in essence is human nature, we all get attached to something, someone and this is the very nature of human nature, can you imagine if we didn’t? how unfeeling would we really be, terribly cold I imagine.  But there is one thing that comes to mind in the theme of human suffering is that suffering is a journey, just as grief, loss and detaching yourself from something, it is a journey, it takes time to untangle, to process, to understand, to digest, to get to a place where all of the varying emotions become bearable and no longer feel overwhelming, so imagine how it feels to go through a process of suffering, whether this be from life’s experiences, personal loss, addictions, trauma, it takes time, the journey to healing does not happen overnight, oh no.

So if you see someone within your peripheral circle who needs some support, reach out your hand in compassion to see if you can offer support, you may not be able to take their pain away, their suffering away, but just reaching out and being there, may mean so much, and it just may make a difference to their lives.  We all need to feel loved, appreciated, cared for and that we matter, even though the real essence is not seeking validation outside of ourselves, or from others, but it does make a difference to our feeling of interdependence to know and to feel that someone does care.

You just never know how much of an impact that may have on another’s emotional, spiritual well-being.

And also remember too, lastly, if compassion does not include yourself, it isn’t compassion. compassion600.jpg

In love & Light, Susan xxx

Turning Loss into a learning experience.

As I sat quietly this morning, baking and listening to my usual beautiful Calm Zen Radio, I sat with my deck of cards and asked for today’s guidance.  The card that came up is called “Death Is An Illusion” now for western ways this may sound morbid, touching base with such a subject.  I will always feel that the British western ways of dealing and handling loss, death is to remain in a sense of denial with a stiff upper lip.  But with other cultures they actually embrace death, loss as a passageway.  Someone needs to hear this message today, so I am going to go with its message.

This card talks of death being a physical vessel which exists.  That there is a beginning, middle and an end to every life form, whether this is measured in minutes, days, or decades.  It is the nature of the molecules of this earthly planer to have an end date, this is the natural state, this is something that we all do have a guarantee of, and know of.

The death of the conscious energy (or soul) of the vessel, however is an illusion.  But because it can’t be seen or measured and because there are no instruments to detect it, many humans question the ability of the consciousness to survive the death of the vessel.  Just because the limitations of the brain aren’t able to explain the intricate dance between the physical dimension and the spiritual dimensions does not negate its existence.

Spiritual form uses “Death” as a tool, and it then manifests itself in the emotional expression as grief.  This card has been drawn because there may be a need to let go and have some assistance with feelings of loss.  Everything comes to its natural end.  Humans, Animals die, relationships and careers end, but the courageous, strong and full of wisdom are those that are able to transcend any pain of loss into a positive and draw reference from what once was in that moment of time.  Grief is a very real emotion and needs to be felt, acknowledged, understood and validated for its very presence and essence, I liken it to the journey of at times grief being so desperately painful in that moment of mourning the loss of what once was, what one may have hoped for, for what might have been, for all the hopes, desires, expectations, dreams and emotions to no longer having it in a very real sense.  When we allow ourselves to truly touch base with the emotions of loss, mourning and letting go and then transcending all of those difficult emotions to a positive that is when we have allowed our soul to truly rise in the power of its truth, almost like the process and journey of the Phoenix rising from its ashes, there is so much learning when we allow ourselves to process and flow through the whole experience and come out of the other side. Know one said it is easy, going to be easy, or is easy, it is just a passageway to reach the full potential of the other side, taking the journey, the learning of letting go of any attachments that exist.

Helping others in times of grief is one of the most important lessens that we can give to humanity, there is something really soul deep when we are in pain and still having the capacity to rise up and support others, that is compassion at its highest form, grief is one of the most important events in a persons lifetime that the soul can experience.

You see spirit knows that the bonds of Love never truly die and that the souls who are no longer existing in a physical sense are more alive and with you that you may have thought possible whilst you reside in this dimension of Earth, it is your conscious mind that has the difficulty in accepting this fact.  The “Reunion” with your Spirit family is also an illusion because in truth you have never been separated, no amount of time, place nor distance will ever be able to discount the memories, the love, the joy, the feelings that existed when you were both together on this earth plane, and nothing will ever be able to change that.

Grief is a passageway and a gateway to truly learn the journey and the truth that separation is in the mind, and that in your soul the love still exists and always will.

If at any time your grief feels to much too overwhelming or perhaps it has taken you to a place where you are not able to move forward because you have become stuck in the emotions, feelings, thoughts and memories, do seek some professional counselling to support you to get through this, it is not a weakness but a beautiful strength to seek and ask for help when you soul truly needs it.

Remember you are always loved by who you have lost, or at least in your lifetime you were and that never changes.

In love and beautiful light.  Susan xxxxx

Deck Messages from the guides James Van Praagh.  I happen to think are truly powerful, beautiful and speak an abundance of spiritual truth, words written today are a combination of guidance and my own. 20180310_135728.jpg

 

Release Toxic Relationships – 03/03/2018

Happy Saturday,

Today I write with regards to what would be beneficial for your soul growth, as I sat quietly I asked for a card to be drawn as a message for greater soul growth and the potential to reach soul growth in a positive way.

The card that came up was Release Toxic Relationships, the deck that I use are by James Van Praagh, so I cannot take full ownership but I can relay the message that has come up.

The key indicators of this card are that in order for you soul to thrive, it needs to be in an environment of love and harmony, any type of conflict, imbalance or discordance only creates difficulty for your soul to thrive.  Often times souls who are sensitive, HSP’s (Highly Sensitive Persons) Lightworkers, those with a psychic or spiritual inclination will attract others who may be drawn to their light and can siphon of your energy if you are not careful, leaving you depleted and lacking energy.  On this basis, it is extremely important that you protect your energy and protect yourself.  For those who are natural “helpers” the first inclination will be naturally gravitate to those whom gravitate towards you to help, but in doing so, at times may not be conducive for their soul growth, know when to step back and when to help, at least this is what I have learnt, do place those boundaries, let your intuition guide you as to when to help and when to step back.   Sometimes too a soul may be brought to you too, to establish just how much you may have grown in the art and discernment of saying no and that you have the strength to actually release them for their greater good.

Toxic relationships come in many shapes and many forms, some of the key aspects of wisdom and experience are an understanding of which, learn to discern whom is good for your soul growth and whom isn’t, now this may not happen straight away, it can happen too when there is growth within existing relationships, just like seasons, time and place things have the capacity to naturally fall away organically when growth has taken place and renewal, rebirth needs to take place, it is not wrong, it is not right, it just IS, there need not be bitterness, discord with this process just an inner understanding that a journey has come to its natural end.  As you emerge anew you may need to re-organize, re-structure and shuffle yourself and vice versa as this change takes place.  This card has come up at a time of new seeding which is Spring and also just after the last Full Moon 2 days ago which was in the Astrological sign of Virgo, one of the key attributes of a Full Moon phase is to release what is outworn, what no longer serves your soul growth and RELEASE.

Do not allow your kindness, empathy and compassion to allow others to mistreat you or disrespect your soul growth, remembering too that it is equally important for the other party to be afforded this too so they too can GROW, it is a two way mirror which reflects individually for each who play a part.

When something comes to an end, send it love, give it love, say thank you for the lessons, blessings, the gifts, all of what that journey may have encompassed, and thank you for allowing me the space to grow in that chapter, say to yourself I AM READY, I AM READY, for a new chapter and I feel full of wisdom, love, knowledge from all of the teachings that I have had to let go of before.

Stay blessed, be blessed and always come from a place of LOVE.

Cards by James Van Praagh, written by Susan Lawrence Soul Coaching

In love & Light Susan xxxinstaquote-_temp (11).png

Like Attracts Like

Hi, I asked for a card today to send out Universally and the card that came up is Like Attracts Like, interesting concept, some may think what does that mean, well in essence we get what we focus on, so if we focus on fear, anger, hate, love, disappointment, joy, negativity then we will get those things, this deck by James Van Praagh, Messages From The Guides, Transformation Deck I felt drawn too for spiritual work of sharing positive empowering messages.

In essence this card speaks of the following key points objectively:-

  • What you focus on give your energy too this is what will manifest
  • You are the creator of your own life
  • A deflection away from compassion and truth via distractions from day to day life
  • What you desire you must create
  • Not giving into fear and anxiety
  • Making a conscious effort to turn your fear based thoughts to that of compassion, forgiveness and understanding, mercy, tolerance and service.
  • Know one is exempt from this universal law
  •  Turn negative energy, thoughts and actions into a positive

This takes awareness and conscious thought and action, it does not happen overnight and one has to re-train their mind.  I also asked for another card from another deck I have and this one is from the Universe Has Your Back deck by Gabrielle Bernstein and ironically the card drawn fits in perfectly with the other, so today’s message and positive focus is watch your thoughts and your actions, if you are fear based then this is what you will create, let go, let love, compassion and understanding be your inner guide.  It does not mean you condone what does not feel right it just means that you channel your thoughts and responses around it.

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Reviewing a box of dark chocolates!

Today I wanted to share a concept of dark chocolates, I remember many years ago seeing this meme. FB_IMG_1519284648761

It took me some years later to understand the importance of its meaning.  “Heartbreak”, now we all know, in fact I do not imagine for one moment that anyone does not know what that feels like, it is one of human nature experiences that are always an aspect of life through the passage of time.

My perception of it is that the dark chocolates are the very things that need to be addressed in a relationship that is not healthy, may be toxic, may be imbalanced, may be where there are aspects that are being shown as a means for soul development and a journey to growth, one thing I have come to realize is that our deepest, darkest, shadow experiences, the most harrowing of experiences are where our soul grows the most, we are forced to as in the very deepest aspect where we are forced out of our comfort zone we are afforded the gift of light after our dark chocolates experience.

One of the most painful aspects of this dark chocolates experiences are the feelings of loss, not dissimilar to the feeling of “grief”, grief can sometimes plummet you down the rabbit hole, sometimes it can take you to a very dark and overcast place as it introduces you to the very core aspects of our subconscious self that may need to be healed, especially if there has been trauma that has been experienced before, whether this is from an early experience, childhood or other.

You see our triggers do in fact have something to teach us, as we journey through the very differing range of emotions that we can experience through loss, heartache, whether it be through death, or a severing of a relationship we become faced with aspects of ourselves that may feel rather uncomfortable, this is not a one rule for all, it is a rule for some, some are able to just dust themselves down and appear not to be as affected.  However, a point to note in my opinion from experience is that when we soldier on and do not give our souls a space of acknowledging, processing, validating an experience, there can be a situation much later in life where it can smack us in the face.  The Universe does that you see.

Having this dark chocolates experience can feel rather uncomfortable, disconcerting, unfamiliar, scary, leave you with a sense of not feeling in control as you journey through the experience of coming to terms with what has been handed to you.  I liken this to experiences that you may not have been expecting or may not have seen, a traumatic event that has jolted your soul awake, jolted it, shook it to the very core and rippled the whole of the foundations of what you thought were.

One of the things that is very common is to go through several stages of emotions in the early stages of trauma and shock. these are:-

  • Shock
  • Disbelief
  • Highly emotional
  • Rationalization of ones emotions and feelings
  • Denial
  • Anger
  • Making excuses for the experience
  • Trying to downplay the experience
  • Acceptance
  • Victim mentality
  • Survival mentality
  • Relieving the experience in your mind

The range of emotions that you may experience due to your situation or circumstance will assist you in journeying through a variation of these emotions and you may bounce around different ones at any different times, the last stage is anger and then you find a place of acceptance.

Heartbreak and is one of the most painful things, there is even heartbreak in the loss experience, it is not unknown for couples whom have been together for long periods of time to lose their other partner to find themselves in a situation where they have not long followed.  It is extremely important not to rush the healing process of heartbreak and loss, it is a very unique grief journey that is unique to each and every individual.

It is important to take one day at a time as you allow yourself to heal and get to a place where finally you get to a place of acceptance, listen to your soul, your mind and spirit and you will know when you have taken the lesson and be able to turn it into a blessing.  For everything that we do experience in the theme of dark chocolates gives us an opportunity for growth, even if you do wear the experiences of that experience for many years to come.

Be kind to yourself, be kind to your heart and soul as you heal.

With love & light, Susan xx

Susan Lawrence Soul Coaching

The Universe places you right where you need to be. Trust the timing of your life.

Today I wanted to talk about the beautiful prospect of universal law and timing.  Today as I was travelling back to my hometown, sadly I missed my connection and had to wait another 2 hours 30 minutes ready for my next connection.  I was talking with a close friend and I suddenly had a moment, what I call Aha moments, I said to her you never know maybe there is a reason why I missed that connection, reason for everything.

When I finally got on the coach, which was running late due to traffic, I could not help but feel a real sense of relief, I knew I had a busy day tomorrow, plus I wanted to get home to my family.

As I sat down I suddenly breathed a sigh of relief and watched as the other passengers got on the coach, immediately a young gentleman got on the coach and made eye contact, I had a feeling that he was going to sit close by, my intuition was correct.  We struck up a conversation and got into a real deep conversation about life, as it transpired there was a real resonance and an understanding as to the deep principles of spirituality and life, it was to be an enlightening conversation that made the travel time go quicker as we both discussed the wonders of life.

What struck a real nice chord with me, is that this young gentleman was a couple of years younger than my youngest Son and it was really interesting to hear his perspectives on life, which we both discovered where in sync with each others, I did feel quite smiley at how the whole evening had panned out, I had gone from feeling stressed to missing my connection to thoroughly enjoying a conversation, sharing what I do for a living and making a connection and networking, it happens spontaneously at times, I suddenly thought, “look at that” an evening that went all wrong, where nothing went right to having a conversation on a very deep level.  I felt that in some instances both had been positioned exactly where we needed to be, you see we can live a life of each one teach one and one never truly knows when or how that is going to happen.  I had already had two beautiful conversations with two beautiful souls in my life and this felt like another opportunity had been afforded, I felt that the Universe had orchestrated this scenario exactly the way that it needed to be, we both ended up sharing pearls of wisdom, the trip went smoothly and before you know it, we where both at our destination.

The moral of sharing this today is always look for a pearl of wisdom or a ray of sunshine in a cloud, things did not go right to get back home but some joy proceeded after, sometimes we are placed in a position that we may not imagine, be open to opportunities, once I had gotten over the initial shock of things not going right I put my practical, logical hat on, and thought okay maybe there is a reason why there was a delay, may you have been placed to support another in their time of need via a message, a word of encouragement, or vice versa you never know, try to look on the bright side when things do not pan out or go according to plan, quite often it results in synchronicity and timing, reminding yourself that you are exactly where you are supposed to be in any given moment, embrace what shows up with an open mind and go forward with a smile, for you never know you might make a difference to someone.

Keep your mind open to life’s opportunities for they are every present if you have eyes and a heart and a mind to be open to receive.

Have a great week ahead.

In love and light Susan xx

Susan Lawrence Soul Coaching brooke-campbell-44085.jpg