The Art of saying “NO”8/8/8 Lionsgate

It is my first day of not having work for the past 2 years, preparing and getting ready for a brand new Chapter to unfold.  I did a post this morning on my Facebook about the art of saying NO, I have come to realise that when you start the journey of walking in your authentic truth, that is to say owning it, without justification, or the need of approval from others, things become different and things change, human nature right!!

Here is my understanding on a deeper level.   When you start to exercise your assertion, your judgement, the understanding of your capabilities, what you are able to do, what you desire to do, and what you want to do, things become clearer.  If you are sensitive then there may be a tendency to take it personally.

When you start saying NO to what you truly do not want to do, you make room for growth in what you truly want to do.  But here is the thing, one begins to realise that those that may be used to you saying YES regularly naturally start to fall away.

You see many people resist change, whether they agree or not, so when you start the journey of changing and asserting that change, it creates a “ripple” in the dynamics of your relationships, your family life, your work life, your intimate relationships, because all are so used to you saying YES.

So when you start saying NO you may find that people in your life will naturally start to fall away, spiritually, universally, it is the law of things, naturally to remove what, who needs to be removed to make room for your renewed growth and your changing soul.  The automatic response may be to feel a sense of resistance from you and others, trust it though for nothing ever grows by staying in ones comfort zone.

 

In love & light Susan xxx

Susan Lawrence Soul Coaching ©1533719998258

Divine Message 08/08/2018 – An opportunity to Forgive! Lions Gateway 08/08/8

Good Morning, Good Morning, Good Morning,

Happy Wednesday in its unfolding, may it be a beautiful day, lets hope so.

The Lions Gateway, what is that?? you may be asking, it happens on the 8th of August (8th month) and this year is 2018 (whereby the 8 is significant) it is a time whereby there is increased cosmic energy aligned with the physical realm.  Have you noticed it? some who are open to this spiritual concept will be more in tune, and those who are on a different alignment will not notice, everyone reaches their spiritual alignment, if it is their choosing in their own time.

The Lions Gateway is associated with the Heart centre and is an expression to the Divine. Plus there are currently 5 planets in Retrograde which means (going backwards) and this in conjunction with this powerful energy, plus we have recently had a super moon eclipse the energies surrounding the cosmos are quite powerful at present, with lots of ship shaping going on.

So it is no surprise that today’s divine message is indicative of “Forgiveness”  it speaks of an opportunity to forgive, many are of the view that to forgive means that you allow the behaviour off the hook, that you condone the behaviour and actions, a reminder that it isn’t possible for you to be responsible for someone else’s behaviour or actions, you can only ever be responsible for you own.  Forgiving someone is actually about YOU, rather than them.

When you allow yourself to forgive you set your soul free, you remove the angst, the discord the emotional upset, those feelings of hanging on, because you haven’t forgiven, you allow it all a space to be set free.  In doing so, you give your soul a space for new growth, a new lease of life, as you no longer allow the very act/s or behaviours of the hurt you experienced a place and expression in your heart and soul.

Imagine how liberating to your heart and soul that would be!

So today, if you have been hanging on to a transgression, holding on to hurt from pain that you have experienced, view it from a place of What was the lesson? what have I learnt? what opportunities has it given me? where have I grown? and where are there areas that I still need to develop and grow?

When you let go you give your heart and soul a place of love and compassion, you set yourself free, it is about YOU, not “other”.   The only person you hurt by hanging on, is YOU.

So today on this Lions Gateway day, which is powerful in its essence, “let go and forgive”

I SET MYSELF FREE WHEN I FORGIVE!

In love & light, Susan xxx

Susan Lawrence Soul Coaching ©

Time is a Healer! The Gift of Time

Every day is unique in its unfolding.
They say that time is a healer, you cannot place time on any healing that needs to take place, for it is like layers of an onion, each layer that sheds gives rise to an emergence of another layer to be healed.
The severity of the trauma or the experience will always be a unique one to each individual, I do admire those that appear to have the ability to dust themselves off, like flour on their clothes, dust, dust, then its gone, but is it really though? hmmmm I do wonder, for humans have the capacity to compartmentalize their stored experiences of hurt and pain in a tight lidded box, to be open again at ones choosing and peril, or when they are triggered and they have no choice but to look the hurt in the eye and say yes, I am ready now to deal with it. aaron-burden-622662-unsplash.jpg
In this though this only prolongs the healing that needs to take place, compounds it, one thing that we can do in this beautiful unfolding of “Life” is enjoy each day, live it, experience it, whilst we still give ourselves permission to be in this timeframe of NOW!!
Time is a healer, it isn’t finite, we cannot say I will feel better today, tomorrow, next week, next month or next year, it truly is a unique thing, the capacity to be able to still function though whilst one gives themselves time to heal what their soul as asking to be healed is the capacity to enjoy each day in its unfolding, to find the joy in each day.
I know from experience that behind every smile there are an ocean of tears, indeed though, this does not mean for one moment that there isn’t the capacity to laugh, giggle even though somehow, somewhere you may be hurting inside, for the gift of time, wisdom and experience is the blessings of being able to function and still get on and move away for just a moment from the pain.
Not forgetting though for those that struggle, sometimes the struggle is just too real, sometimes the transformation from pain to joy seems just a little to long a way for them, never judge, for how can we, when we are not walking a mile in their shoes, we may be able to understand the pain, but everyone will have their own unique strategies, coping mechanisms and ways of dealing with it, there is no right or wrong.
Remembering that as John Holt says, Time Is The Master!!
Remembering that Tears are the Liquid Emotions That The Heart Cannot Express!!
No judgement please for Time is a healer in all things.
With Light and Love, Susan xxxxx