Today I wanted to share a concept of dark chocolates, I remember many years ago seeing this meme.
It took me some years later to understand the importance of its meaning. “Heartbreak”, now we all know, in fact I do not imagine for one moment that anyone does not know what that feels like, it is one of human nature experiences that are always an aspect of life through the passage of time.
My perception of it is that the dark chocolates are the very things that need to be addressed in a relationship that is not healthy, may be toxic, may be imbalanced, may be where there are aspects that are being shown as a means for soul development and a journey to growth, one thing I have come to realize is that our deepest, darkest, shadow experiences, the most harrowing of experiences are where our soul grows the most, we are forced to as in the very deepest aspect where we are forced out of our comfort zone we are afforded the gift of light after our dark chocolates experience.
One of the most painful aspects of this dark chocolates experiences are the feelings of loss, not dissimilar to the feeling of “grief”, grief can sometimes plummet you down the rabbit hole, sometimes it can take you to a very dark and overcast place as it introduces you to the very core aspects of our subconscious self that may need to be healed, especially if there has been trauma that has been experienced before, whether this is from an early experience, childhood or other.
You see our triggers do in fact have something to teach us, as we journey through the very differing range of emotions that we can experience through loss, heartache, whether it be through death, or a severing of a relationship we become faced with aspects of ourselves that may feel rather uncomfortable, this is not a one rule for all, it is a rule for some, some are able to just dust themselves down and appear not to be as affected. However, a point to note in my opinion from experience is that when we soldier on and do not give our souls a space of acknowledging, processing, validating an experience, there can be a situation much later in life where it can smack us in the face. The Universe does that you see.
Having this dark chocolates experience can feel rather uncomfortable, disconcerting, unfamiliar, scary, leave you with a sense of not feeling in control as you journey through the experience of coming to terms with what has been handed to you. I liken this to experiences that you may not have been expecting or may not have seen, a traumatic event that has jolted your soul awake, jolted it, shook it to the very core and rippled the whole of the foundations of what you thought were.
One of the things that is very common is to go through several stages of emotions in the early stages of trauma and shock. these are:-
- Highly emotional
- Rationalization of ones emotions and feelings
- Making excuses for the experience
- Trying to downplay the experience
- Victim mentality
- Survival mentality
- Relieving the experience in your mind
The range of emotions that you may experience due to your situation or circumstance will assist you in journeying through a variation of these emotions and you may bounce around different ones at any different times, the last stage is anger and then you find a place of acceptance.
Heartbreak and is one of the most painful things, there is even heartbreak in the loss experience, it is not unknown for couples whom have been together for long periods of time to lose their other partner to find themselves in a situation where they have not long followed. It is extremely important not to rush the healing process of heartbreak and loss, it is a very unique grief journey that is unique to each and every individual.
It is important to take one day at a time as you allow yourself to heal and get to a place where finally you get to a place of acceptance, listen to your soul, your mind and spirit and you will know when you have taken the lesson and be able to turn it into a blessing. For everything that we do experience in the theme of dark chocolates gives us an opportunity for growth, even if you do wear the experiences of that experience for many years to come.
Be kind to yourself, be kind to your heart and soul as you heal.
With love & light, Susan xx
Susan Lawrence Soul Coaching