Divine Message 16/08/2018 – Assertiveness – Where do you need to speak your Truth!

Good Morning, Good Morning, Good Morning all,

Wishing you a beautifully blessed Thursday in all that you do today!  It may be a little dismal outside, but you can create your own inner sunshine.

Today’s card speaks of Assertion, are you in a situation that requires you to speak your Truth? is there something that you may have been avoiding in vocalising?

It can feel hard at times to be assertive at times with matters of the heart, especially if conflict is something that you don’t like or aspire too. But sometimes when we speak our Truth it sets our soul free, it sets us free and other to make room for progress and both.

Of course that is on the precipice that you are given the opportunity and space, and vice versa to be able to do so, sometimes if there is a feeling of not feeling “Safe” to speak your Truth then it can be difficult.  Sometimes we may not always get the “Closure” that is desired and vice versa.  Trust though that the timing of and revelation of Truth is paramount, and I have learnt from experience that, the time does show up and enable you do do so, even if it is later on down the line.   The main thing though is being honest with yourself and asserting your truth where you can, when you do, it gives rise to the opportunity for change.

Sometimes we fear opening up and communicating our truth, and in reality sometimes it doesn’t turn out as bad as we had expected.

Keep sharing your authentic you, be assertive in who you are, without any apology.

In love & light, Susan xxx

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Divine Message 15/08/2018 – Heart Chakra – are you open or closed to Love!

Good Morning, Good Morning, Good Morning,

I have been awake for ages, certainly my sleep pattern feels rather awry at present, I understand it though, “Transitions” and feeling the energy and ripples of change, I have learnt not to fight it, but flow with it.

Today’s Divine message refers to the Heart Chakra, the heart Chakra rules your emotions, the seat of your soul, your heart and emotions of love and goodwill towards self and others.

Is your heart open? or closed? Where do you allow yourself to freely express your loving emotions? where do you close yourself off from doing so? where do you close others off from expressing theirs, perhaps because your heart is closed?

Matters of the heart will always be the one driving force of humanity, the one driving force that is set to compel, repel and dispel.  You only have to look at the agony aunt columns to see how much people desire to have answers, and yet when we constantly allow ourselves to seek outside of ourselves for love validation, and look to “other” to validate us and complete us, we set ourselves up for a really big fall.

Yet Love, emotions, feelings of connection with other (interdependence) are so essential to that feel good factor, you only have to see two people in Love to see the driving force within, when a woman is loved correctly, she can position herself into her womanly role, her goddess like self, role and her queenly position, her feminine, when a man is loved correctly, he can do the same, position himself in his rightful masculinity, without it being threatened, questioned or emasculated, for both it just IS.  Especially when the connection of both is compatible and both are in alignment.  And yet it appears one of the most elusive games ever, “Love”.  Why? because people expect so much, there is heavy expectation to see the love relationship as a fix to make them better, when in essence the only one that can do that is “self”.

Love is the centre of being, it is the most essential ingredient to feeling satisfied, full, appreciated, acknowledged, validated that both matter, that both count.  The difficulty arises when there is an expectation of an outcome, the learning is to live in the moment, enjoying each other, enjoying the journey, trusting yourself, trusting other and enjoying the growth that such a journey affords.

When your heart C

hakra is open and you feel safe to love, you feel ready to love and you are at a stage of truly accepting and loving yourself, the beauty of the love journey begins.   Today’s Divine guidance speaks of allowing yourself to be open, to feel safe to love and know that you will be guided, protected both within yourself by your own intuitive guidance and knowing that the higher spiritual guidance has your back.

When we are Loved correctly we can open up and blossom into our true higher selves.

In love & light, Susan xxxx

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The Art of saying “NO”8/8/8 Lionsgate

It is my first day of not having work for the past 2 years, preparing and getting ready for a brand new Chapter to unfold.  I did a post this morning on my Facebook about the art of saying NO, I have come to realise that when you start the journey of walking in your authentic truth, that is to say owning it, without justification, or the need of approval from others, things become different and things change, human nature right!!

Here is my understanding on a deeper level.   When you start to exercise your assertion, your judgement, the understanding of your capabilities, what you are able to do, what you desire to do, and what you want to do, things become clearer.  If you are sensitive then there may be a tendency to take it personally.

When you start saying NO to what you truly do not want to do, you make room for growth in what you truly want to do.  But here is the thing, one begins to realise that those that may be used to you saying YES regularly naturally start to fall away.

You see many people resist change, whether they agree or not, so when you start the journey of changing and asserting that change, it creates a “ripple” in the dynamics of your relationships, your family life, your work life, your intimate relationships, because all are so used to you saying YES.

So when you start saying NO you may find that people in your life will naturally start to fall away, spiritually, universally, it is the law of things, naturally to remove what, who needs to be removed to make room for your renewed growth and your changing soul.  The automatic response may be to feel a sense of resistance from you and others, trust it though for nothing ever grows by staying in ones comfort zone.

 

In love & light Susan xxx

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Living in a world where it is a courageous act to be yourself!

Thinking this morning how shallow and superficial some aspects of this world can be, but in essence it is not the World, it is the acts, values and belief systems that are actually shallow and superficial, in my opinion.

It feels like we are measured in terms of our monetary success, the clothes we wear, the way we look, how much we achieve.  With this mentality constantly being the driving force, it is no wonder there is a perception view and mindset that to view anyone who shares simplistic values and beliefs to be an odd ball.

My thinking is that it is actually the eccentrics, the odd balls, the geeks, the nerds, the different do actually achieve but perhaps in a more subtle quieter way than shouting to the rooftops look at me, look what I have achieved every step of the way.

When you finally get to a place where you can sit comfortably in your soul, sit comfortably with your quirks, with your failings, with your positives and with yourself simply as you are, I feel your soul has gotten to a place of acceptance!

It is when you get to a place of celebrating yourself, without the driving force and need of approval of others, is when you have found a quiet place of yes I have arrived.  I feel that, the beauty about the souls journey, and each will arrive at their own destination, in their own time, in their own unique way, is when you get there, you get there, it does not matter how long it takes, but that you get there.

So today I stand in celebration of being in a place of celebration of being my own SHERO and honouring all what has been achieved in my own quiet way and in my own unique way.  I hope that you see that all what you too have achieved, even in the smallest of baby steps without the extra added aspects of viewing from a perspective of money, materialism, ego or having the need to be perfect.  You simply are a success in your own right, the baby steps accumulate to the greater whole.

Celebrate you as you are, I do and my soul feels a place of inner peace at just that.

In love & light Susan xxx

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Divine Message 03/08/2018 – Healing Your Inner Child.

Good Morning, Good Morning, Good Morning,

I hope that you have had a good week so far!  Today’s card I feel is an interesting one,  Healing Your Inner Child”  Allow it to be felt, heard, validated and expressed.

How often do you allow your inner child a space to feel all of those things? to even be given a space for a little bit of fun or creativity.  We all know that adulthood is all about responsibility, maturity, being perceived as doing the right thing from the judgement of moral standards, or expectations of what an adult means, but where do you allow your inner child to express itself?

I watched an interesting video yesterday which indicates the very thing that compounds pain in adulthood and that is not healing our inner child if there has been trauma, challenges as a child when growing up, quite often not healing it can ripple and permeate into the very core of trying to become an adult, it has an impact on our relationships, friendships and also in general.

So where do you recognise, any trauma or healing within your inner child that may need attention?

Society I feel doesn’t encourage such reflection, it is usually only addressed in adulthood when an individual gets to a stage of catalyst and being forced into a situation of looking in the mirror that at times it may only then get addressed.

The important aspects of healing our inner child I feel are the following:-

  • Healing earlier childhood trauma, hurt, pain and experiences.
  • Learning to forgive those that have hurt you.
  • Learning to forgive yourself
  • Learning to get to a stage of integrating your inner child into adulthood
  • Allowing the expression of feelings of all that is associated emotionally, spiritually and mentally with your inner child.
  • Allowing for natural expression of your inner child, this can be through fun, creative expression, dance, communication, literature.

You see sometimes we forget to allow our “Inner Child” a place to have a little fun and to play, this is so important, as it gives the little person that is part of your inner you a space to feel honoured.

Have a great Friday, deep stuff, yes it is, but healing is, you don’t get to the root of healing by staying on the surface.

 

In love and beautiful light,

 

Susan Lawrence Soul Coaching ©

An Interdependent Relationship is the healthiest way v co-dependency, learning the art of detachment in relationships.

Relationships, the most sought after thing, yet for many, including myself can feel illusive, why is that, well here is my learning, until we get healthy with ourselves and weed out negative behaviour patterns and negative conditioning, we simply cannot be healthy with another, this is not to say for one moment, that one ought to take full responsibility for the demise of a relationship in its totality, but an understanding of how you played a part in that demise and what part you played.

You simply cannot expect to make another accountable if they choose not to be aware, or simply acknowledge in communication with you, their part, or even validate any hurt their actions may have fostered.

You see pain, in particular in relationships, I believe are one of our greatest Teachers, and greatest assets to be able to force us to grow and come out of our conditioned comfort zone.

Many will say how the hell can you give advice on relationships when you are not in one? well here is the thing, if you are a person who does reflect and does look in the mirror you can glean a lot from what hasn’t worked, what things you have done, what things you haven’t done and you can take this lessons forward, there is no greater lesson than that what is deemed as failure both from your own inner critic and from an observational view of the lens.

I have come to learn that the reason why the very thing that you may truly desire from your soul and heart eludes you, is because perhaps you have been eluding yourself? quite often the focus on “other” is a mechanism to deflect you from looking at yourself, it is easy to get into a situation whereby it’s always the other persons fault, but that is just proportioning blame, which serves no purpose, that is just a justification to take no responsibility for being part of that journey.

You see my learning is that when you love deeply there can be acts of imbalance in that you give all of yourself, sometimes at times at the expense of “other” when in actual fact, the gift is to learn interdependence, keep a level of individuality and a level of interdependence in equal measure.  Having been part of unhealthy relationships, I now get to witness so much earlier on, the red flags of where a situation could become co-dependent, that is not love, that is enabling, that is control, and love is not about control.

Love needs to be given a space to be free, to flourish, to grow, to emerge in its floral design, so that both emerge and grow to their highest and greatest potential.  One of the healthiest relationships is where honest, truthful and connected, present communication exists, where there is absolutely no fear or judgement in being able to express your true, honest and authentic self.

The gift of loving unconditionally without expectation is the gift of detachment, for when you get to a place where there is no expectation of an outcome, there is no need, nor desire to “fix” other, but to focus on fixing, YOU, that is the gift of a healthy relationship.

In today’s society there are a great deal of unhealthy relationships, I know this from a wisdom perspective, and knowledge as being part of a group, observation and reading.

Unhealthy relationship patterns can be learnt from an early age, even from the perspective of what appears on the outside, a very healthy relationship to co-dependency and enabling patterns that take place in the home.

When you can get to a place where you can safely allow your souls true authentic self to shine, express itself without fear or judgement, and the same for other, then that right there is a healthy balance.

Love is not control, loves needs space to be able to express its truth, not all flowers and rose tinted glasses all of the time, but the moments of emotions that may not feel very comfortable, when you get to a place where you can connect with someone and you show all facets of your character and personality and there is nothing hidden, and both of you are able to hold each other in those moments by being emotionally present and available, that is a healthy relationship.

If you feel the need to “fix” make excuses, dum down who you are, or suppress your emotions or who you are that is control, that isn’t healthy.  The importance of honest communication is also about allowing yourself to vocalise your feelings without fear this helps the relationship grow because you are showing your vulnerability, and it is only when we truly drop our guard, show our vulnerability that we can truly have an honest loving relationship and remember, just because you behave in a particular way, it does not mean expecting other to be the same, because that right there is one of the situations that will set you up for a fall.  Most of us do have an expectation of how we perceive things should be, but in the love stakes, usually it turns out to be completely different, that is because we had an expectation.

Love is a gift when it is allowed to grow and flow.

In love & light, Susan. xxx

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We all play a part in each others soul’s growth!

Good Morning, Happy Monday, blessings for a beautiful week ahead.

There are some moments where my reflective processing feels deeper than others, but there is nothing more that I love than a good laugh!!  Ever had those moments where you connect with some loved ones, friends and the laughter just roles.

This morning has me thinking about the roles we all play, I firmly believe that our connections either bring out the best, or the worst.  That the long connections, brief connections, short connections, all play a part in the interconnections of our souls journey.  I believe that people come into our lives either a lesson or a blessing.

The truth is the process of elimination & discernment to discover which, at times through the journey of these processes in takes time for revelations to reveal themselves, what comes after dark, always comes to light.

Make sure though that those that are present and who have shown up you appreciate them, please do let them know that they matter, that they feel important to your heart and your soul, for there is nothing sweeter than feeling acknowledged, validated, and noticed from that loving space of appreciation, who doesn’t like to feel appreciated? validated and acknowledged.

Look out for the positive interactions, those that support you to become the best version of you, and remembering it is a two way street, equally that you support those that mean something to you, to become the best version of them.

Life and its connections always ought to be about give and take in equal measure, not take, take, take, that is an imbalance that both parties can do without.

Sometimes the lessons or the blessings come to realisation later on, but most of all let your soul guide you as to who feels “right”  who feels a right fit, you cannot go wrong with that inner gut antennae that speaks volumes as it either feels good, or feels uncomfortable in its gnawing truth.

Thank all those that have been a blessing, never forgetting a moment of gratitude for all of the lessons and the blessings, in whichever way they come.

Have a great week ahead,

With love & light, Susan xxxx

 

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Sometimes a sabbatical, time out is a good thing, regeneration of the soul.

I haven’t posted for a while, I took some time out to process some thoughts, feelings, emotions regarding my current journey.  Naturally, I tend to do this anyway, reflection is so powerful for the soul, I often find that after such a period of time, I am able to come back with a fresh eye, renewed sense of awareness and a different level of energy.

We had a Full Moon in Scorpio yesterday, full moon’s as you are probably aware are filled with powerful potential of renewal and releasing of the old.

It is not unknown around a Full Moon period to allow your soul the gift of releasing what may have been wearing you down, weighing heavily on your soul, or just simply put it no longer feels right, you can sense within the very essence of you that something has changed, there may be a sense of resistance as you grapple with the familiar, grapple with keeping things they way your are used to, comfortable with, but in that complacency there isn’t the capacity to grow, if you do allow yourself to stay the same, so in the journey of reflection, you can get to a stage where after the processing internally has taken place, you can feel a sense of “one day my soul just opened up” embrace it, flow with it, enjoy it, and allow yourself to be in the moment.  I will be back with more postings shortly.

Don’t forget to set your new intent after releasing the old and outworn, ready for a brand new chapter as you walk towards the next new moon which is indicative of renewal, rebirth and newness.

 

In love & Light, Susan xxxx

Today’s Universe Has Your Back Message 17/04/2018

Good evening, good evening,

I hope you have had a great Tuesday and it has left you feeling that you have accomplished something, made a difference in some way, or simply enjoyed just being in the 20180417_175314.jpgmoment.

Today for me has felt productive and blessed in its unfolding, I am grateful for that.

Today’s message is quite sweet actually and funny, it talks of authenticity and being authentic in your truth is one of the most purest, honest acts of love there is, why because when you allow yourself to be and feel authentic you actually others to be and feel the same, plus it comes from a place of truth and that is a pure and honest place of the heart.

So today’s message is simply about being in your authentic truth and owning it, accepting it and allowing it.

Being vulnerable is not a weakness but a strength.

We are sometimes conditioned not to show too much because we may appear weak, but when you allow yourself to be who you are in any given moment, you are actually honouring your soul and that is a beautiful thing.

Confidence is sexy, being authentic is sexy and being honest is sexy, go on allow your sexy self to SHINE.

In love & Light, Susan xxx